"I want to be in the LGBT community too!"

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[–]artetolife 34 insightful - 11 fun34 insightful - 10 fun35 insightful - 11 fun -  (4 children)

Their subreddit is nothing but memes implying everyone else but them just wants to fuck around and have one night stands, it's insulting. Oh and people playing the victim because they're not taken seriously as a true and honest sexuality.

Edit: The coming out posts are hilarious. "How do I convince my mom I'm not normal, I'm QUEER and SPECIAL >:("

[–]CJLez 31 insightful - 3 fun31 insightful - 2 fun32 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

The coming out posts are hilarious. "How do I convince my mom I'm not normal, I'm QUEER and SPECIAL >:("

LGB is such a simple concept (I like women and/or men the way that you like men and/or women) and most people, even if they disagreed, could understand it. Now every week there are new made-up sexualities and genders and it is making the general public dislike us more because it is a) confusing and b) feels like an attack on their everyday lives. Even my mum (who has never once used the internet so is outside of any tumblr and twitter nonsense) recently went on a rant about how she'll soon be considered abnormal because she's straight.

[–]artetolife 24 insightful - 5 fun24 insightful - 4 fun25 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

These people already think straight is abnormal. Their entire friend circle is "queer" and you're not cool if you don't have a special label, a flag, and dramatically come out of the closet as if you're in a teen drama show.

[–]8bitgay 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I feel like there's a lack of empathy from people who define themselves as non-binary or demisexual. You think you're a separate category of gender/sexuality because you don't feel masculine everyday, because you don't feel instant attraction to everyone. I mean, do you really think that everyone who isn't part of your label wakes up everyday fitting the same gender stereotypes perfectly? By the way these people define themselves most people would probably be non-binary and demisexual!

This whole thing of "wanting to be queer" is even more evident when you see couples involving a non-binary and a cis person. By their own rules, a gay/lesbian couple would mean both partners identify as the same gender. So why do couples with non-binary people always say they're a gay/lesbian/queer couple? If your partner identifies as man and you identify as anything other than man, that's a straight couple. So why don't you call your couple straight, why do you identify yourself as gay/lesbian? These people might talk a lot about gender but at times like these they forget really easily their own rules about gender.

[–]fuck_reddit 23 insightful - 12 fun23 insightful - 11 fun24 insightful - 12 fun -  (0 children)

ID a day??? We're already to 365 "genders" and "sexualities"??? Back in my day, you had two genders and three sexualities... and "my day" was like two years ago...

[–]adultxhumanxfemaledie mad about it 23 insightful - 2 fun23 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

This whataboutme-ism is exhausting. I hate social media and the way it has normalised narcissism. Because this is what all of this is. Wouldn't it be great if our whole lives didn't revolve around what we like to do with our genitals? These people are so boring and their entire personality revolves around their sexual orientation. And when the hell did we decide to allow children and young adults to dictate societal norms, anyway?

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I was wondering who are the people who are making these things so I googled CSPH:

http://www.thecsph.org/who-we-are/staff/

[–]indeepshadowsBi woman 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Somehow I knew I wouldn't have to scroll for long to see someone with green hair. I was not wrong.

[–]Shinjin_NanaNopes faster than an Aeldari Jetbike 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

green pink purple and back to green. All of the hair genders XD

[–][deleted] 7 insightful - 6 fun7 insightful - 5 fun8 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

Dummisexual

[–]Lapis_Lazuli 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

"Mom . . . Dad . . . I don't want to have casual hook-ups or one-night stands. I only want to have sex with someone after we've formed a strong emotional bond."

Yeah, kid, no one's going to beat you or throw you out on the streets for making that announcement.

[–]luckystar 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

"Demisexuality" is basically mandated by the major Abrahamic religions (Christianity, Islam, Judaism) because you're not supposed to feel sexual attraction for anyone but your spouse. Literally the majority (>50%) of the world has "demisexual" as their ideal.

[–]Shinjin_NanaNopes faster than an Aeldari Jetbike 5 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

I had a friend tell me this and thank the gods it was via DM because she didn't see my eyes roll WAAAY back.

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Same. One friend confessed she is demisexual when I said I'm asexual and I just said to myself "so you're straight". Also I've witnessed a group of people suggesting a girl is demisexual because as she explained even if she met some guys she never liked their "initiations". I dunno maybe these guys were just too quick at doing this or maybe she doesn't realize she can be possibly a lesbian?

[–]Shinjin_NanaNopes faster than an Aeldari Jetbike 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Heh, it was, so you're a straight woman with standards......

If she didn't like some guys because they're acting foolish with shitty 'intentions' those are the standards. Just because a woman like men doesn't mean all men. That's why incels exist. XD

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

They must stay up night and day creating new words, new genders, and attempts to recreate sexuality.

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I like how they all want to be different and unique, but in the end, that makes them all the same.

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

In the way they try describe demisexuality if you think hard enough it is somehow distinct from just waiting for the right moment to bang someone. They say normal people feel sexual attraction from the beginning even if they don't act on it first, while demi people don't... Technically it sounds distinct but do self-described demi people actually feel this way? Don't they mistake this special description with what normal people actually experience? I'm asexual aromantic and I'm baffled what drives demis to form relationships like that in the first place? There must be attraction from the very beginning... but I'm sure they'd call it "romantic" attraction driving them so their label stays somehow consistent. Truly I always disliked the idea of making asexuality a spectrum. Anything what's not asexuality is just being a normal sexual person.

[–]Shinjin_NanaNopes faster than an Aeldari Jetbike 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm baffled what drives demis to form relationships like that in the first place? There must be attraction from the very beginning.

THIS. There has to be sexual attraction of some kind to kindle a relationship that will become sexual eventually.

[–]Gearbeta 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Honestly, I feel like so called "demisexuals" have a child like understanding of how sexuality works. Some of them legit believe that the rest of the world is DTF at the drop of a hat or upon just seeing someone. But in reality, most of the world requires a strong emotional connection before sex. I mean that's basically what "I felt a spark" or "we have chemistry together" means, the feeling of strong emotional bond.

[–]Wandering_Idiot 1 insightful - 4 fun1 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 4 fun -  (28 children)

I'm a demisexual. It falls under asexuality normally, and we like to be apart of the LGBT because many of us are sort of sudo bisexuals. I'm personally more likely to connect and form emotional attachments to my own sex (female) because I find women easier to bond with as they are normally more emotionally open and expressive.

[–]Shinjin_NanaNopes faster than an Aeldari Jetbike 26 insightful - 2 fun26 insightful - 1 fun27 insightful - 2 fun -  (13 children)

if you want to fuck someone, ever, you're NOT asexual.

That word does not mean temporarily celibate by choice or otherwise. It does not mean needing an emotional connection to want to fuck. It means just not interested in fucking.

[–][deleted] 18 insightful - 2 fun18 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

For real, wtf. Some people want to fuck less than others but it doesn’t mean they are asexual. Lol

[–]Shinjin_NanaNopes faster than an Aeldari Jetbike 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It's like, heterosexual, otherwise normally sexual people are looking to shoehorn themselves into LGB.

As an ace I don't even think that ace is LGB unless they're romantically same sex attracted (such as two ace women, two ace men, or bi in a non-sexual relationship) and then it's not the asexuality it's the same sex attraction. Not every movement is for everyone, no matter how they stretch it.

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

As a fellow ace I also agree. We have AVEN as our community.

Also the idea of spectrum always infuriated me. Imagine being asexual but when you read these asexual forums they feel like normal sexual people talking. I think I feel even more of a weirdo because of these spaces than because of straight people.

[–]Wandering_Idiot 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (9 children)

So if you are bisexual you are only allowed to be 50/50 attracted to both sexes? Or do some people swing a bit more gay or strait than others? Like being bisexual asexuality is a spectrum and demisexual fall into it. The biggest difference I guess from me simply being bisexual is that I literally default to having no physical attraction to people... like at all. People even very beautiful people get the same sexual response from me as lamp, painting, or any other aesthetically pleasing object. I'm 33 and I've only ever been sexually attracted to 4 people in my entire life, and I didn't have sex with any of them.

[–]Shinjin_NanaNopes faster than an Aeldari Jetbike 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

Bisexuality is about being attracted to both sexes, not a percent swing. When a bisexual person dates the same sex they do not become solely gay or more percent gay, they stay bisexual. (this is my understanding as a non-bi person. If I have it wrong let me know)

Asexuality is about not being sexually attracted to anyone, or wanting to fuck anyone. It's not a percent swing. If you feel sexual attraction at all you are not asexual. You are celibate by choice because your libido is low or you have other hurdles to forming a sexual relationship, but can form one. If you say in your head that you could see yourself fucking if the right person with the right relationship came along, you're not asexual.

There's nothing wrong with that. It just doesn't make you asexual. Not everything is on a spectrum. Demisexual is not a thing, you're just sexual with a low libido. We don't need to granulate or Balkenize definitions to death so your hetero and sexual relationships can have their own special feelz identity.

I'm nearly 40 and have never felt sexual attraction. In high school I quasi-dated a guy my sister set me up with I had no feelings for, it lasted less than a month and never did that again. I felt no attraction and we did nothing sexual, so I know what I'm talking about.

[–]florasisHOMOSEXUAL FEMALE/Pussy is my God and I'm monotheist 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It's a bit sad not being able to enjoy the sexual pleasure and passion, but you also much more free than most people. Need of sex and romance kind make you dependent on others.

[–]Shinjin_NanaNopes faster than an Aeldari Jetbike 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I guess I never thought about it, so I don't miss it.

The closest thing I can compare is thinking about finding another asexual person to safely be around as an emotional partner, but it's just not worth dealing with.

I would agree that we're less dependent on others, just by virtue of having fewer needs that others fulfill for us.

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The thing with asexuality is just feeling no attraction. Like, when I see stories of gay people about when they realized they are gay they always bring up a sort of innate feeling of liking people of the same sex - even if during childhood it didn't have a sexual character at all. Even stories of straights include this innate feeling. Like straight women saying they are very annoyed by men but they can't help what they feel to them. It's very counterintuitive to me to despise a certain group but still being attracted to them. When I think about myself I have never felt this innate feeling. This feeling, which somehow everyone recognize as "yes! I like boys/girls/both!". I have no idea who I like. Or it's accurate to say everyone are just meh to me and has always been from the beginning.

[–]Wandering_Idiot 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I mean you are kind of proving my point that most people see demisexuals as bisexuals. Also spending like 5 seconds googling will show you many sources saying that demisexuality falls under the asexuality spectrum. It's not like I just made this shit up.

[–]Shinjin_NanaNopes faster than an Aeldari Jetbike 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Um, yes, they're making this shit up. Just because some turd made it up online DOESN'T MEAN IT'S TRUE

Words. They have meanings. It's not like we walk around smelling toast and stroking out.

Asexual is no sexual attraction.

Sexual is sexual attraction.

Bisexual is attracted to both sexes.

Homosexual is attracted to the same sex as yourself.

Heterosexual is opposite sex of yourself.

That's it. It's LITERALLY that simple. There is no spectrum.

And no, demisexuals don't exist. If you're bi then you're bi. I don't get what's so hard about this.

[–]Wandering_Idiot 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Just because some turd made it up online

Is that what we are calling Psychologists and Psychiatrists now?

[–]Shinjin_NanaNopes faster than an Aeldari Jetbike 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

apparently, if they think asexuality is a spectrum.

I mean they're transing children and sending them to get their body parts chopped off. You really trust the shit that's coming out of their collective mouths?

Here's a better way to think about it:

You can be attracted to both sexes (bisexual) regardless of your relationship status. You can be in a homo or hetero relationship, which doesn't change the fact that you're attracted to both sexes.

It's not the same for asexuality. Either you experience sexual attraction or you don't. You can't be both at the same time, as in bisexuality. You can't both have sexual attraction and lack sexual attraction at the same time

If an otherwise sexual person goes through a long period of abstaining from sex (for whatever reason) they do not become asexual. Same with a bisexual person, regardless of what relationship they are in, stay bisexual because it's about being attracted to both, not the relationship they're presently in. They don't 'become gay' if they're in a same sex relationship.

I have a feeling you do no understand asexuality, as most people don't because it doesn't apply to you. Demisexual SHOULD mean that you are ~sexual~ with a low libido. It does not and never will belong to asexuality because ~it specifically involves and defines when you feel sexual attraction~.

......And if you feel sexual attraction at all... you. are. not. asexual.

[–]Finnegan7921 17 insightful - 2 fun17 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

If you like to be among the alphabet people, do so b/c you are actually gay, bi, or lesbian. Don't just go make something up, call it "queer" and attempt to hop on the trend train to score woke points. Demisexuality is not a thing, it has zero whatsoever to do with asexuality. What it purports to describe as a "sexuality" is actually just people being selective and not hopping into bed with just anyone before you really know them. What an insane concept.

The language itself is absurd b/c it makes no sense. Demi as a prefix just means "half"...so in reality a "demisexual" would only be half sexual, w/ever that bullshit would mean, but it has nothing to do whatsoever with people forming emotional bonds with their prospective partners. It is just more made up bullshit for people to be performatively woke and score some cool points with their equally deluded peer group.

[–]Shinjin_NanaNopes faster than an Aeldari Jetbike 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

demisexual. Half sex.

Only the tip please.

wheezes XD

[–][deleted] 14 insightful - 3 fun14 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

No-random-hookups isn’t really an orientation though. I’m not demisexual and I need to actually meet someone and talk to them until I decide if I want to sleep with them. It’s important to a lot of people to get to know someone to be attracted to them. I feel like hookup culture might be creating some idea that being cautious and spending time with someone is not a normal step to becoming more attracted to them.

[–]AugustiJade 13 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

So you're bisexual, then.

[–]Finnegan7921 9 insightful - 6 fun9 insightful - 5 fun10 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

That's so passe'. The B in lgbt has been around FOREVEEEEER. They need some new and exciting label to give themselves or else it just won't do.

[–]Gearbeta 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

How do you think sexual attraction works for the rest of the population?

[–]Wandering_Idiot 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Well, do you find women's bodies attractive? Sure you might not want to jump into the sack with just anyone but you could probably list a bunch of traits that a woman's body could have that you would find sexually attractive. There are reasons why many lesbians don't want to date trans women and many gays don't want to date trans men, because you aren't having sex with personality. I default to zero sexual attraction, when I look at even a beautiful body I don't feel any sort of sexual desire. I can't even come up with traits I find sexually attractive in my mind other 'healthy' and 'groomed', which I don't personally thing health and hygiene really can count as sexually attractive though it can kill sexual desire if you have some serious BO going on.

[–]Gearbeta 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I do find women's bodies attractive but what you're describing is not out of the ordinary for many people. Most straight people I've talked to have, like you, only found a limited number of people they're attracted to. And this is particularly common in many straight women, who report that seeing a hot guy does literally nothing for them and do not have any particular physical trait that they find attractive. I've talked to some women who tell me the most attractive things about men to them are if he's nice and if he listens. I've even met straight women who tell me that normally they find men's bodies repulsive and only the act of falling in love (emotional bond) with them makes them able to be sexually aroused.

[–]Wandering_Idiot 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I've even met straight women who tell me that normally they find men's bodies repulsive and only the act of falling in love (emotional bond) with them makes them able to be sexually aroused.

And we have a term for those people, they are called demisexuals.

[–]Gearbeta 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No one would think of them as special or somehow different than other straight women.

[–]Shinjin_NanaNopes faster than an Aeldari Jetbike 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

We do.

It's called normal.

'Yes I'm asexual when it come's to Timmy's hairy belly, but Jim is cut af so I'm sexual around him. OOPS guess I'm alphabet soup demisexual then.'

You're seriously a riot, Wandering Idiot.