Every constituent element of our entire society is locked and loaded to affirm a cis person in their gender

There is really no polite way to say this. Everyone sees people for what sex they are, regardless of how they dress or feel. It doesn’t matter if I put on a dress and heels or a button-down and oxfords. When I go out in the world, everyone recognizes me as a woman and calls me as such. There’s no “affirmation” happening. People are just calling it as they see it.

What trans people don’t get is that no one looks at a transwoman and thinks, “that’s a woman.” Everyone knows he’s a man and is just politely tiptoeing around the issue because they know he’s a head case and don’t want to be accused of “bigotry.” The same goes for transmen and non-binary people. No one is “affirming” gender. They’re merely accommodating mental illness out a sense of social niceness.