Oh, this is Ramses, the one who wrote about "having sex with me is just like with any other gay guy." I know you have linked her other articles before, but it is very jarring to see an article about someone who wants nothing to do with sex and sexuality, only to several months later give lectures about how people need to rethink their desires to include her.

I think celibacy and asexuality have been conflated. Hell, I've even had periods where I tell myself that I'm not in a mental space to date or even hookup. That doesn't make me "ace spectrum," that means I've made a rational decision that now is not the time. Now is one of those times, I am working massive amounts of hours in a facility processing packages for the Christmas season. Too tired and/or busy to fuck, plus my studio apartment's a wreck because the last thing I want to do after a 12 hour day is deep clean the kitchen.

A true asexual (and I do think they exist, just not as common as stated...."identifying" is not always the same as being) would not care about gays not wanting to have sex, because they wouldn't want the attention of a gay man in that way.

All that aside, this person sounds like she lives in a miserable world. Her actions anger me, but it sounds like she is not able to pin down what she wants in life or even who she is. Her expectations for how gay men would theoretically come around to wanting her are pure magical thinking, but there was something sad about her wanting someone to love, understand, and desire her. I understand that sadness and loneliness, but I also understand that you cannot lecture people into wanting you. She is not able to extend the same request respecting "agency" to the gay men she wants, and until she does that, any semblance of a relationship she is looking for will fail.

As stated in TT Exulansic's videos, a lot of the services which ostensibly help people like this are only making things worse.