Colonization"Lesbian" who's "dealing with CompHet" is jealous of coming out experiences.

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[–][deleted] 24 insightful - 4 fun24 insightful - 3 fun25 insightful - 4 fun -  (2 children)

I'm going to assume his "comphomo" is the result of watching too much porn and thinking women are sex objects for men and so wants to be that.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 14 insightful - 4 fun14 insightful - 3 fun15 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

OMG “comphomo.” Spot on.

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

God this is perfect

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 15 insightful - 15 fun15 insightful - 14 fun16 insightful - 15 fun -  (1 child)

If only he were able to fantasize about himself as an anime school girl earlier in his life, things would be so much better. What a tragedy.

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 5 insightful - 5 fun5 insightful - 4 fun6 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

Cue suitably-heartbreaking musical accompaniment... courtesy of the wold's smallest violin!

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[–][deleted] 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

What the fuck do he thinks a coming out is ? An instant celebration with cheering and applauses ?? It's not something we threw a party for in a lot of family, quite the contrary, it can lead to an absolute disaster depending the context, the country and the family and friends. Can't they show a little bit of fucking respect ?

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

this this.

[–]soundsituationI myself was once a gay 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

What the fuck do he thinks a coming out is ? An instant celebration with cheering and applauses ??

Yeah I initially found this post super bizarre since I don't think coming out is actually fun for anyone, but it all makes sense when you see it as the idealized LARP that's so typical of this crowd. They've fetishized the experience because they see it as an untapped source of narcissistic supply.

Actual best-case scenarios:
-the person you tell is totally unfazed and continues the conversation without a hitch
-it deepens the relationship and brings you closer together
-even if the initial reception is less-than-great, it ultimately facilitates more honesty and vulnerability

Coming out can be a good thing (and can also be a devastating thing, as you're right to point out) but I don't think it's ever a fun thing. It's something that many of us have to do over and over again throughout our lifetimes in order to have honest relationships with the people around us, not an enjoyable experience in its own right.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

What the fuck do he thinks a coming out is ? An instant celebration with cheering and applauses ??

Yes.

Can't they show a little bit of fucking respect ?

No.

[–]fuck_reddit 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yet more proof they are delusional fetishists. “Coning out” is only fun in movies. It’s typically long and drawn out. We are just some fun experience to them. Disgusting.

[–]Mermer 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I'm sorry (not really) but how is not realizing you like women from the beginning of your life bcs it's not seen as normal or natural appealing? What would I GIVE to just KNOW it was a thing to have that OPTION to simply BE without any sort of special attention to the fact I like girls.

[–]CleverFoolOfEarth 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

special attention

There's yer answer, it's because most snarts are narcissistic.

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    [–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    Bruh- Even if coming out as a lesbian was only a positive experience(doubt), you would never get to feel that anyway if you didn't also go through any of the negatives from actually being a lesbian, including any "comphet", which you never did and will as a born het male. So go ahead and feel "robbed" of those feelings whenever you want, you pos.

    [–]dilsencySame-sex community 7 insightful - 6 fun7 insightful - 5 fun8 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

    Another person who goes from being attracted to the opposite sex, to being attracted to the opposite sex. Groundbreaking.

    [–]MBMayfair 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    Oh my God, is there anything these fetishists don't want to claim from women?! I guess this is better than when they screech about missing a "girlhood" - you know, having a canopy bed with princess sheets, shiny Mary Janes, Barbie dolls as far as the eye can see, etc. That shit really makes me want to 🤮.

    [–]Q-Continuum-kin 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

    Yes because gays love having to come out...

    [–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    Coming out isn't an enjoyable experience for (I would think) anyone. At the worse end of the spectrum, you lose all your family and friends and can end up homeless. At the absolute best, nothing really changes and life continues as it did except now you're able to let go of some stress that was only there because you didn't know whether those around you would be accepting, which is bad.

    So at best, you let go of some stress and at worst you lose everything. This isn't a party or a game as all these TRAs seem to think it is. Coming out isn't like deciding to pick up a new hobby or career. You throw a fun party when you get accepted to a good university or hired at a great company to work for. Not when you finally admit a truth about yourself to those around you.

    And what about people who don't need to come out because everyone can just tell that they're not straight by interacting with them to any degree? They don't get to come out, people just look at them and think "Oh, that person is gay," at which point a coming out event is just a confirmation of what others already suspected.

    These people always trivialize what being gay is actually like and turn it into a game. It's always so absurd and the fact that anyone thinks the trans community isn't inherently homophobic is awful.