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[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 20 insightful - 3 fun20 insightful - 2 fun21 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

I hope 2021 will be better than 2020. But we might have to make it better. So let’s make it better.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa[S] 16 insightful - 7 fun16 insightful - 6 fun17 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

I hope so. Especially for me. Got a lot of improvement in my life to do

[–]reluctant_commenter 12 insightful - 3 fun12 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 3 fun -  (16 children)

Happy New Year!!! This community rocks and I learn constantly from talking to people here, I appreciate you guys so much.

full of happiness, improvement and homosexuality!

I will take glad tidings of homosexuality any day, thanks! And glad tidings of bisexuality for our bisexual siblings :)

Anyone have any New Year goals? I was too lazy to think of any last night, lol. My first goal is to write some goals, I guess.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (15 children)

Anyone have any New Year goals?

Start to make my life less of a mess, improving lots of aspect of myself, starting with mental health, and ending the last years of misery. Is that enough of a goal? lol

[–]reluctant_commenter 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (14 children)

Same here! Hell yeah that's enough of a goal. What sort of stuff do you think you might try to help your mental health? General healthy stuff like going on walks and the like, or therapy?

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (13 children)

A walk? LMAO I think antidepressant work much better for severe problems I have. But I'm trying to avoid it, since they kinda mess others aspect of you

[–]reluctant_commenter 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (12 children)

Well, you did say:

improving lots of aspect of myself, starting with mental health

That could mean anything from "I'm trying to not get in a rut and want to start some good habits" to "I am planning on checking myself into a hospital soon," you didn't specify.

But I'm trying to avoid it, since they kinda mess others aspect of you

Yeah I've avoided them myself for that reason, I do evidence-based therapy though.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa[S] 9 insightful - 5 fun9 insightful - 4 fun10 insightful - 5 fun -  (11 children)

Like they turn you into an asexual zombie who can't get off not even if an amazing hot woman like VioletRemi is fucking you. It's sad :(

, I do evidence-based therapy though.

What is that?

[–]reluctant_commenter 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (10 children)

"Evidence-Based Therapy" is a name for types of therapy that have been scientifically demonstrated to actually improve people's mental health. For example, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) for anxiety, depression, PTSD, etc. is one. Dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT), which is a treatment for borderline personality disorder, is another.

Some therapists do therapy that actually doesn't really help... e.g. eclectic "talk therapy" can sometimes do nothing for a person because you end up talking in circles about your issues but not solving them. Also some types of therapy are demonstrably more bullshit than others, like psychoanalysis. And "somatic experiencing", in my opinion.

Like they turn you into an asexual zombie who can't get off not even if an amazing hot woman like VioletRemi is fucking you. It's sad :(

That is indeed heartbreaking. I wonder if u/VioletRemi has any wise words on the subject.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa[S] 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (9 children)

Cognitive behavioural therapy, yeah. I know it. It based on stoic philosphy. It's helps, but when you suffer from from anxiety and OCD, only therapy is often not enough. I've been suffering from it since childhood, it's biological problem, but depending on meds is scary

That is indeed heartbreaking. I wonder if u/VioletRemi has any wise words on the subject.

She's worried I become an asexual zombie too lol

[–]reluctant_commenter 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

Hmm, I'm not sure if it has origins in stoic philosophy per se, that's interesting though I hadn't heard of that. But, exposure and response prevention therapy (ERP) is supposed to be one of the most effective therapies for OCD out there, and it is a type of CBT. Sorry to hear you been dealing with that for so long!

She's worried I become an asexual zombie too lol

Well, I'll leave it to her to see if she can help you haha.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

Yeah, my anxiety disorder has been really disability. Mental health suck. Really i would rather physical pain than mental one. And yeah, it come from stoic philosophy which is kinda the best mindset to accept hardship in life and things we cannot control but don't like. It very hard to assimilate though, especially for a ruminating anxiety prone mind like mine, but there is not better way to handle things in life than being a stoic.

Well, I'll leave it to her to see if she can help you haha.

She has made me happier, more positive and so fucking horny :D

[–]VioletRemiCat, homosexual one 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Thank you, and the best for you as well! And I'll make sure it will happen ;)

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa[S] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You have been the best part of 2020 for me

[–]MarkJeffersonRaga Shave 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Best of luck to everyone. Hope you reach that star you are aiming for.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa[S] 9 insightful - 5 fun9 insightful - 4 fun10 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

Awww I'm trying to reach an ukrainian.Well. she's a star

[–]votkriscan 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Happy New Year to you guys and gals too! May everyone’s ambitions and dreams come true, and that it will be a good year or at least, a better year all round.