LifestyleHow do you think you appear to others once you've disclosed that you're gay/lesbian/bi?

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[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

Never said butches were feminine. Butches are masculine as fuck. To me, femininity is mainly a character trait, something natural, mannerism , but it also style too. It's a mix of both mannerism/personality and style, but it isn't just style.

I'm pretty sure men are more aggressive because of testosterone , not just culture.

[–]reluctant_commenter 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Ah, I mixed you up with someone else's comment in that post I made, my bad. How would you describe a butch woman who looks very masculine in style, dress, etc. who acts with character traits that are very typical of women? I'm curious because some of the (self-described) butch women I've talked to are very non-aggressive and don't act like male stereotypes at all, they just happen to be very GNC.

I'm pretty sure men are more aggressive because of testosterone , not just culture.

People overestimate the effect of testosterone; there is a consistent difference in aggression because of testosterone, but it's not that big. That is why I would say it's both biology and culture. I would imagine that, if I were physically bigger and stronger than half the world, I would be more inclined to act aggressive and domineering, as well; having that perspective makes a difference in behavior.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 4 insightful - 4 fun4 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

A butch woman with a natural feminine mannerism (do they exist? Don't know. I feel like if someone is butch, that fit also their character almost alway) would be masculine in style, but feminine in mannerism and personality. Although, I would still not be into her, because I need the feminine style too, not just the mannerism or character.

if I were physically bigger and stronger than half the world, I would be more inclined to act aggressive and domineering, as well; having that perspective makes a difference in behavior."

You are right

[–]reluctant_commenter 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Gotcha, that makes sense. Yeah, I think there are definitely some; the couple of very GNC women I've met in real life were like this, actually, I've never met a woman who was very GNC and also very aggressive.