Please, think about this.
If TRA saying:
"My son likes to wear dresses so she's obviously a trans girl" or "My daughter is not like the other girls so he's a trans boy" is creepy, invasive, borderline pedophilic...
Then why is LGB "activists"/LGB alliance saying things like:
"Gender non conforming children will grow up to be gay!"
"Your son isn't trans just because he likes dresses, he will grow up to be a happy gay man!"
"Your daughter doesn't need testosterone, if she likes playing outside she is clearly going to be a butch lesbian!"
On a photo of a little boy in a dress "Oh, he will become such a happy gay man!"
If you have problem with one of these, why is it okay to say the other?
These are common phrases I see on this sub, and more importantly this godawful "LGB alliance" that's trying to take off. How do people not see the problem with this?
Let me spell it out.
Saying that "gender non conforming equals gay/lesbian" is:
Inherently anti-science, as it has no grounds in reality. Gender is, first of all, fake/socially constructed. No one is inherently traditionally masculine or feminine in "who they are", saying otherwise is exactly what trans belief is.
Nothing but a regressive stereotype. "Gay means girly" and "Lesbian means manly" are exactly the type of logic people use to mock homosexuals. It is actually the other way around. Because people believe homosexuality in males is "not manly" and is "manly" in women, homosexuals have an easier time being gender non conforming solely because they will get less hate for doing so.
Harmful to straight gender non conforming people. Most gender non conforming males I've met, for example, are straight. But they get relentlessly bullied by being assumed to be "gay" and "bottoms", I have seen this pushed so aggressively that it has had a serious negative effect on mental health.
Contrary to the gay/lesbian reality. Please take a look at any gay community, especially male ones. Gender non conformity is not the most common, in fact "gay culture" focuses a lot on traditional masculinity. I am a very gender non conforming homosexual male and I have never been able to feel like I fit in gay communities because I am not masculine.
Now, saying specifically that children who are gender non conforming will inherently grow up to be gay/lesbian?
That is:
Incorrect, for the reasons listed above. Also, kids are kids and a lot of things are needlessly gendered with no basis in logic. I don't know anyone who conformed to traditional gender roles 100% as a kid.
Creepy. REALLY FUCKING CREEPY. Why are you thinking about a child's sexuality? Why does it matter? How is this any less creepy than obsessing over a child's "transition"?
And with the horrible stereotype that the feminine gay man is the "bottom" or the "bitch", that he is to take the inferior role for being "like a woman", then wtf are the implications of someone saying that a gender non conforming underage boy will become gay? Aren't you effectively saying "ah yes, this child will grow up to be a sex object for men because he's wearing a dress in this picture."
Please stop saying this stuff.
Not only is it factually incorrect and as ridiculous of a claim as "inherent gender identity" - it's also going to paint homosexual people as pedophiles. Don't do it.
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