BisexualSo, today is pansexuality's international day...

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[–]PatsyStoneMaverique 18 insightful - 4 fun18 insightful - 3 fun19 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

I'm going to bang my frying pan, I'm really attracted to it, so I think I'm pansexual ;)

I support you.

Yes, it is unnecessary and pointless. Getting the day added to calendars and promoting it as a thing is keeping at least 5 activists busy and exhausted, possibly employed even. That is the point. Not helping people or contributing to the common good.

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Pansexual is just another way to feed into the narrative that lesbians, gay men and especially bisexuals are sex-obsessed deviants who systemically pull down their dates' pants to check if they've got the right parts.

[–][deleted] 14 insightful - 10 fun14 insightful - 9 fun15 insightful - 10 fun -  (1 child)

Having their own day doesn't help when no one knows what the fuck pansexual even means.

[–]usehername 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It means "I'm woque".

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 9 insightful - 10 fun9 insightful - 9 fun10 insightful - 10 fun -  (1 child)

A day devoted to people who are attracted to Peter Pan? 🤡🌍

[–]PatsyStoneMaverique 7 insightful - 8 fun7 insightful - 7 fun8 insightful - 8 fun -  (0 children)

He'll never grow up 🤮

[–]Aaran 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Does it mean they think they're just obsessed by genitals and don't care about personality.

They do. They think everyone is a "genital fethisist" or something.

[–]LilianH 8 insightful - 4 fun8 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

It was Pansexuality day, now it's Pansexuality, Panromantic and Pangender day.

[–]Femaleisnthateful 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think of 'pansexuality' as being one of the weapons queer theory uses to deconstruct 'cisheteronormativity' (my spellcheck doesn't like that one, either). Notice how every young female celebrity is coming out as 'pan'? Jojo Siwa was a lesbian for 5 minutes before declaring she was 'pan'. She's 17.

Moreoever, 'pansexuality' seems to be the sexual undergirding of 'polyamory', which queer theory is pushing hard to legitimize as an identity. I see polyamory as part of a men's sexual rights movement, since the women I know who get involved in this always seem to have a history of low self-esteem and relationship trauma, and seem to be trying to force themselves to make it work and pretend they like it. I never see one female with multiple males in these relationships; it's always the other way round.

Anyway, I'm off on a tangent, but yes, I agree with you that pansexuality is really about delegitimizing sex-based identities and sexual orientation, and thereby breaking down boundaries.

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 4 insightful - 4 fun4 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

They say they love "hearts not parts" and like people for their personality and not their gender.... But, what does it mean?

Other than the ones only doing it to placate the tra or signal their own specialness, I think a fair number of the younger ones are still socially immature, insecure about of their own sexuality(especially if they are SSA) and scared/squeamish of the stark biological realities of and differences between the sexes and how they fit in. Even more so now that things like sex-ed are increasingly not properly covering the science of the sexes and the real orientations. Their own sexually timid/conservative inclinations are not compatible with what their peer's expect of their political alignment or demographic group, so they may only talk to appear sex-positive and progressive, but at the same time they put up abstracted linguistic buffers between themselves and the concrete subject matter that gives them anxiety and causes them confusion.

With that said, I'm going to bang my frying pan, I'm really attracted to it, so I think I'm pansexual ;)

I recommend teflon-based lubricant.

[–]dippintots 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

My honest question is: does it truly matter? It doesn’t have to be a competition of who gets the most attention (“they have a visibility day why don’t we?????”) and it’s not that many people who’s say “hearts not parts.” You could just as easily generalize gays, bi’s, lesbians etc with a negative connotation. You’re not making yourself look any better with the frying pan joke, either. People should be allowed to identify with whichever label they want. It’s not harming my life; I’m not losing sleep so I’m not worried.

[–]usehername 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It matters because it muddies the established definition of what a sexual orientation is. There are three basic sexual orientations (4 in slang, because there are different words for male and female homosexuals): heterosexual (opposite sex attracted), homosexual (same-sex attracted), and bisexual (both sex attracted). If we allow "pansexual", defined by them as "attraction to all genders", which is really just bisexual but woke and no preference for males or female (or some other arbitrary preference; they can't agree on the definition) then we allow every other sexual orientation to be defined by preferences rather than the concrete science of attraction to one or both sexes.

The same logic (gender-based attraction instead of sex-based) that allows "pansexuality" to exist as a valid sexual orientation, distinct from bisexuality, is the same logic that justifies redefining the terms lesbian and gay as "attraction to the same gender" i.e. including heterosexual attraction trans people with a personal belief that they are or should be the opposite sex, and deintegrates homosexuals.