Just thought I'd share my anecdotal experiences & observations on grindr.
Without revealing too much about myself. I'm a man who's not masculine or feminine, I do have shoulder length hair, generally thin and very little body hair. That being said, I'm obviously man and do not come across as androgynous to the point my sex isn't clear.
I see lots of men on grindr who say they are looking for trans only. I never try to talk to these people for the obvious reason that I'm not trans.
I am however noticing a pattern of me getting messages from these men. Last night I got a message from a profile who literally read " Only message me if you are trans, all others will be blocked". So when he messaged me I said, yo...I'm not trans . His response was "yeah but you're cute" This is the 3rd time I've had a similar exchange.
I also see a pattern of these dudes being into trans women , femme boys , and twinks.
I'm sure most of these men consider themselves straight and the trans movement is happy to prop up this idea because it helps to validate their identities as well.
However it's painfully obvious these men are bisexual, with a preference for people with "feminine " features . I can understand these men not wanting to say they are bisexual because they aren't interested in people who appear masculine. I really think if we could come up with a term for people who are bisexual but exclusively attracted to people who are feminine only or masculine only, it would stop all the discourse & keep these people from squatting in the terms gay, lesbian & straight.
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