Bridesmaid demands bride disinvite her father or she will not attend the wedding.

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[–]spanishprofanity 15 insightful - 4 fun15 insightful - 3 fun16 insightful - 4 fun -  (4 children)

Saying that you aren't "OK with trans" is like saying you aren't "OK with trees." Being trans isn't an adopted belief system. Trans people exist. They are who they are. If someone can't accept that, then yeah, they're a bigoted asshole and shouldn't be accommodated.

lol at the tree analogy. trees are trees. men aren't women. it is an adopted belief system.

and yes, i am proudly a bigoted asshole for accepting that men in dresses and poorly applied makeup aren't women.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 11 insightful - 15 fun11 insightful - 14 fun12 insightful - 15 fun -  (0 children)

lgbdropthetrees

[–]Finnegan7921[S] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

My fave was "I wouldn't allow a transphobe at my wedding no matter who they are to me. I won't have that in my life."......fight on, proud warrior, fight on.

The funny thing is that most of the ppl in support of the bridesmaid seem to be laboring under the impression that the bride's dad is going to be screaming anti trans rhetoric while beating the shit out of this kid for the entire event. My thoughts are "would the dad even notice ?...would he really care, given that it is a pretty big day, probably going to be family he wants to catch up with.....also, maybe he isn't all down with the trans stuff, but he probably has a filter and a sense of decorum and isn't actively going to make a scene at his daughters wedding." Those are crazy thoughts, silly me.

The whole thing highlights the extent to what trans and trans adjacent people think the world revolves around them. This woman cannot conceive of a place where the kid isn't the center of attention simply do to the fact that the kid is trans and as such will suck all the oxygen out of the room with the wonders of transhood. Pssst, lady, nobody at that wedding will give a single stinky shit.

[–]spanishprofanity 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

they really think that the "transphobes/GCs/TERFs" are always plotting violence against them and that it will happen at any moment. sometime. eventually.

[–]ArthnoldManacatsaman🇬🇧🌳🟦 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Trans trees are trees, phobe.

[–]serf_n_terfStraight Ally - Surf’s up! 🏄‍♀️ 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

“iT’s mY sOn oR uR dAd!!!!” Girl. Your gonna lose 10/10 times if this is how you address someone’s bigoted beliefs. Transphobia or otherwise, you don’t give someone this kind of ultimatum. It’s so narcissistic.

[–]SerpensInferna 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If anyone gives me any kind of ultimatum, they're going to lose, let alone against a family member.

[–]Finnegan7921[S] 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

There is some absurd virtue signaling in the comments.

[–]chazzstrong 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

It made me physically recoil, just how WEAK so many people are. Just so fragile and pathetic, and I can't imagine living like that where every instant is a new chance to be offended about something. The whole lot of them, one after the other, lining up to rant about how horrified they are....

[–][deleted] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Its reddit, what did you exactly expect? It's the same website which hired a pedophile trans MTF

[–]chazzstrong 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I mean I spend a lot of time on reddit myself, but I stick to mostly video game subs so I guess I get to avoid all this.
I know it's there, still just floors me. I just can't wrap my head around the purpose of this mentality other than the brief dopamine hit.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Videogame subs are especially infested with these types unfortunately. In my Pokemon fb groups I'd see tons of rainbow clownery during pride month

[–]SerpensInferna 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is something that really hit me the other day.

I have (had) a long-time very close friend who recently decided to end our relationship because of differing beliefs. Due to location and occupation, she has definitely been heavily influenced by the Cult of Woke. Over the past 3 years or so, I have witnessed her transformation from a relatively well-adjusted person to someone who has started to absolutely revel in victimhood. The whole situation makes me so, so angry...brainwashing is real, yo.

[–]ArthnoldManacatsaman🇬🇧🌳🟦 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You don't pull any punches. I like you.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This strikes me as such an alien reaction from the bridesmaid and all of these idiot commenters. I cannot imagine as a bridesmaid or any level of guest asking a bride to disinvite her father solely because of his feelings about gay people, whether or not I brought a woman as a wedding guest and I don’t know any gay person who would expect the same, let alone have this thought even cross our minds as a possibility. Let alone if it wasn’t even me, but my hypothetical child. What’s the child’s relation to these people? It’s common for non-related children or guests to not even be invited. How old are the child and the bridesmaid? If you are concerned about the well-being of your child, you can set reasonable precautions or have them not go if you think their emotional well-being is in danger. It sounds like the father offered to shut up and steer clear. I can’t imagine expecting or asking for more than that.

And how can this bridesmaid be so sure that no one else would be thrown off and “misgender” her child purposely or not because they see a tomboy not an actual boy? Does she expect every other guest to be screened for their beliefs to be approved ahead of time? What about the 80+ year olds who literally cannot even wrap their minds around the concept or transgenderism? Should they be screened for their thoughts about race relations, various religious groups, and immigration as well? And I say this as someone who didn’t invite one of her parents to her wedding for my own (non-ideological reasons). The narcissism is strong with this lady. I hope this child is not a victim of her mother’s Munchausen’s. In any case, this mother is setting up her child for a world of hurt by going to great lengths to prop up a delusion that cannot withstand the constant threat of reality.

[–]ArthnoldManacatsaman🇬🇧🌳🟦 5 insightful - 4 fun5 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Imagine how difficult it is being someone targeted for violence and having people sympathize with them and their loved ones because we insist on being afforded basic human rights everyone is due - but supporting us is “political” and hard for the bigot who target us for violence and the people who love them?

*deep breath*

But what about MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

The Traniban is OBSESSED with everything being about themselves. What an unhinged bridesmaid. Jesus, it takes a whole new level of sociopathy to make another woman's wedding all about themselves.. Gross.. No wonder the the Traniban community is full of psychos and sociopaths

[–]Finnegan7921[S] 1 insightful - 4 fun1 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

The Traniban....

[–]Q-Continuum-kin 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Why bring a child to a wedding in the first place?

[–]HelloMomo 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I mean, "child" can mean "young person" but it can also mean "offspring" and mean someone's adult daughter or whatever.

[–]Q-Continuum-kin 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

In the post it sounds like the kid is a minor based on the way it says the mom is the one saying SHE is the one who "feels" that her "son" isn't "safe".

I would hope an adult could make their own decision, but then again, these people are mentally children so...

[–]censorshipment 2 insightful - 5 fun2 insightful - 4 fun3 insightful - 5 fun -  (5 children)

This screams white privilege... bridesmaid is a liberal Karen.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Everything is not about race, dear.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

To some people it is. We have a vocal minority here who are trying very hard to rock the boat using race.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

She's race obsessed. It's amusing.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

In a way it is funny because it's so ignorant you are right. :)

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Blah blah white people bad blah blah

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Why is it always that they don't feel safe? Has the father ever made any threats towards trans people? Or does he just disagree with TRAs? Because if just having someone there who has different opinions makes them feel unsafe then they are fucking cowards.

[–]SerpensInferna 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I have been struggling to understand this for years. Someone who doesn't feel safe being in the vicinity of a person who doesn't share your exact same beliefs is deeply damaged, and the fact that it is being encouraged and has become the norm among certain circles is mind boggling.

The only thing I can come up with is that their delusions are so fragile that anyone who doesn't buy into their constructed virtual reality is, in fact, an actual danger to their la-la land.

Listen kid, I don't feel safe walking to my car from the bar at night. I do feel safe talking to my weird conservative uncle who has been nothing but kind to me my whole life, FFS.

[–]SolRosenberg 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

she doesn't feel like her son is safe at my wedding

If I was the bridesmaid I wouldn’t participate in the wedding or bring my child knowing that there is potential for them to be emotionally harmed at the event.

The mere idea of the biological truth existing in the same wedding hall could be so harmful and shatter the illusion that's been fed to this poor kid. Munchausen by proxy much?