Colonizationr/lgbt - I'm poly and one of my partners has DID (3 personalities. I'm dating all three of them and well... I just bought the ring! It's got each of their birth stones!

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[–]CancelPowerSuper Bi Male 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Jesus Christ, you NEVER see this in a normal straight or gay relationship. I don't want to be an ableist, truly, but I have no idea how this would even work. Even the idea of it creeps me out, especially when DID is not recognized by many medical professionals as a legitimate mental disorder (gonna wait to study it in psychiatry to be 100% sure though) I mean it IS a mental disorder, it's in the DSM but most people don't have it for real which is where all the debate about its validity comes from.

At this point, this is literally 2 people being mentally ill and delusional playing pretend. It keeps getting more and more degenerate.

[–]lunarstrain 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

especially when DID is not recognized by many medical professionals as a legitimate mental disorder

I wish more people knew this. It's really hard to learn about the condition and the beliefs around it because of how much fake shit is out there now. I only know as much as I do because I ran into a faker before faking the condition was as popular so the few resources that existed weren't biased and filled with garbage like they are today.

[–]ChunkeeguyTeam T*RF Fuck Yeah[S] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

DID is real, incredibly rare and does not present as anything resembling the popular culture/TikTok fiction we are seeking today.

[–]lunarstrain 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I recently got the opportunity to sit in on a friend's online psychology class where they talked about the condition and the professor made a point to say multiple times that it's a controversial diagnosis. From what I read in the past, some psychologists feel that the symptoms of DID have too much overlap with things like Borderline Personality Disorder and Schizophrenia to properly diagnose it as a separate condition.

You're totally right that if it is a real condition it is nothing like what TikTok portrays. I've seen PTSD dissociative episodes which are somewhat similar and they can get very ugly.

[–]ChunkeeguyTeam T*RF Fuck Yeah[S] 7 insightful - 7 fun7 insightful - 6 fun8 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

This sub is a great source of head-shaking amusement and jaw-dropping disbelief if you're not already aware of it.

[–]Virginia_Plain 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'd imagine that for a legitimate sufferer, if any exist, the other personalities wouldn't cheerily announce themselves in the way these "multiple system" people tend to.

[–][deleted] 10 insightful - 10 fun10 insightful - 9 fun11 insightful - 10 fun -  (0 children)

When 1 fake identity isn't enough for you so you make up 3 fake identities.

[–]hufflepuff-poet 10 insightful - 7 fun10 insightful - 6 fun11 insightful - 7 fun -  (2 children)

sigh How would the altars all have different birthdays...they reside in the same body, born on the same day?? Your birthday is based on the day you were physically born.

Trying to take this seriously, just makes me even more confused 😒

eta: also, how does the other actual partner feel about being excluded from the engagement? I can't imagine being in a relationship serious enough for marriage and yet my partner has another partner?? Do these people do anything but egg on each other's delusions all day? This person is dating "4 people" at the same time...

Congratulations, that's a very thoughtful and meaningful way for you to propose. I hope that you get a yes (or 3 yeses - I'm not sure how this works.) I wish all of you all the best

LOL, what happens if one of the altars says no 😳😬

[–]SilverWolf 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I assume each birthday represents when another personality came out or whatever you'd call it.

[–]chandra 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

LOL, what happens if one of the altars says no 😳😬

Imagine proposing to someone and they say "well I'd totally love to, but one of my multiple personalities isn't on board, sorry :( "

Then again if you knowingly date this sort of crazy then you kinda bring getting messed around on yourself.

[–]CleverFoolOfEarth 7 insightful - 9 fun7 insightful - 8 fun8 insightful - 9 fun -  (0 children)

sigh... Well, it's better than actual cheating, I suppose.

[–]Beryl 9 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

I fucking swear I'm losing brain cells by the second

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

DID has become a trendy (and sometimes fake) diagnosis among groomed and ignorant children. That probably had an influence on this.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Nope. I'm not touching that. There is a very good reason why a lot of people with genuine mental health disorders do not want to talk about their conditions: so that it does not become normalised. The fact that these disorders are being celebrated and people are pretending to have these disorders, it makes me sick.

[–]Horror-SwordfishI don't get how flairs work 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I'm all for destigmatizing mental illness as much as possible, so that people that have problems can actually admit to themselves that they have problems and can get help without feeling like they're a social pariah, but I'm very much against glorifying mental illness as though it's a good thing to have and doesn't need treatment.

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

They should be viewed in a more neutral fashion. No glorifying or stigmatizing. But this is harder for people to do.

In addition, either approach is bad because it creates very reactive conditions that can have can have unfair consequences for how these things are handled down the line. One pulls the string and lets go(or loses control) and it may snap the other way and back again, perhaps for years or generations.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm all for erasing the stigma and making life easier for the mentally ill. And like you, I'm against glorifying mental illnesses and allowing them to be promoted. The sufferers need treatment, not validation or worship.

[–]PriestTheyCalledHimBisexual 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Do the idiots on reddit know how super rare DID is? I know there is a forum where people claim to have it but in reality it is super rare.

I know psychologists, psychiatrists and medical doctors and they have seen millions of people as patients and they never saw one person with DID, it is that rare.

[–]ArthnoldManacatsaman🇬🇧🌳🟦 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You know what? I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna be a dick about this. People this mentally ill should be institutionalised.

[–]automoderatorHuman-Exclusionary Radical Overlord[M] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

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[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

About that faking trend: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cutDHpZUKYQ

[–]ChunkeeguyTeam T*RF Fuck Yeah[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Extraordinary how it overwhelmingly affects only people assigned female at birth...