I'm sick of being the only one with these views and feel insane

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-07-13T11:29:36+00:00

First, if you hadn't mentioned that you were 16, I would never have known: your writing style is already very sophisticated, so don't undermine yourself by saying "I'm only a teenager".

Second, I remember how isolating it was to be a gay teenager in the 80s. I guess it still is isolating but for different reasons. I don't know that I or anybody else on the internet can make the loneliness any better. But hang in there: you're smart, level-headed, able to see through BS. Never forget your power and you'll make it through.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-04-02T00:43:16+00:00

Yeah it's just such a bad take lol. The best surgeons can make a neovagina look identical to the point that gynecologists are even fooled.

OK, let's do it again (take 7823): there is no way that a professional who has spent 3-4 years in medical school and then 3 more years in internship/residency and then maybe 3 more years in a gynecology fellowship, who has seen literally 1000s of vaginas by the time they see you, will fail to notice that your "vagina" is slightly too low, has no mucous membrane, no musculature, a tendency to grow hair, and does not lead to a cervix.

Even I know this, and I'm a gay man.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-07-19T12:28:07+00:00

This might sound dismissive or cold, but she's probably better off in the long run. The last thing people need is to be having sex with multiple random strangers. Yeah, I'm judgmental about promiscuity, but it's based on lived experience.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-12-12T16:43:23+00:00

r/thathappened.

In no way does a phalloplasty resemble a real penis. If plastic surgery had advanced to that degree then you can be sure that a Google Images search would reveal the marketing materials promoting this genius/miracle of modern medicine.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-07-30T02:32:27+00:00

I thought that was just a genitalia fetish. Shouldn't he be "re-examining his preferences", which will surely lead him to the epiphany that male vaginas are !hawt!

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-07-23T02:56:56+00:00

What he means to say is "my boundaries are not debatable or negotiable, but your boundaries are meaningless to me if they stand in my way."

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-06-06T03:00:03+00:00

If only ... if only ... somewhere in the world, there was a cis guy willing to date a woman....

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-03-08T03:28:52+00:00

That's a hot take!

Next, it will be transphobic for me to give my husband a blowjob.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-10-30T02:47:38+00:00

It's not validating me if it's someone who is specifically attracted to trans. I need to be desired by somebody who is exclusively attracted to the sex I was not assigned at birth. Anything less than that is LITERALLY TRANSPHOBIC VIOLENCE.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-07-13T23:02:12+00:00

We have 3 kids together, two under the age of 10, and one teenager... I've tried to be as supportive as possible and we have spent a lot of our savings on her surgeries.

What a selfish prick.

IridescentAnaconda · 2022-02-06T16:23:27+00:00

Recent post on the Farms pointed out that homosexual dementia patients remember that they are homosexual, while trans dementia patients don't remember transitioning and freak out about what happened to their penis or breasts.

One phenomenon is intrinsic and the other is not.

I realize that this is only tangentially related to OP, but the point is: we are not the same.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-03-14T03:11:52+00:00

Le yawn The "wedge" that is dividing the LGBTQ+ community was driven by TQ+, not SuperStraight.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-07-13T02:55:30+00:00

"Lesbians".

Also: claims AGP doesn't exist and proves he suffers from it in the very next sentence.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-12-04T22:42:25+00:00

Why don't these gay transmen date each other if the penis isn't so important?

Or better yet, they could save themselves a whole lot of trouble by dating straight men who have fully functioning penises and actually want vaginas.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-11-02T23:51:19+00:00

This is fucked up but, in the current environment, the obvious solution is stealth.

Nobody is obligated to explain why they are not attracted to someone. You can make up any reason you want, including the most frontal attack possible: you're ugly. That's not identifiably transphobic if you don't add the rest of the sentence, ... because you look like the man you obviously are.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-07-18T15:39:20+00:00

To be fair, most of these men have never been in a male locker room.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-11-02T02:40:17+00:00

If pronouns are simply a form of expression then it shouldn't be a capital crime to use the wrong ones.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-12-31T03:33:34+00:00

Nobody is obligated to be "sexually available" to anybody else, let alone a whole (special and protected) class of people.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-12-31T03:34:27+00:00

I vote "leave trans people alone".

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-05-16T02:32:34+00:00

I think I've crossed an age threshold where certain things completely elude my comprehension. Is this what it's like to get old?

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-06-30T02:28:57+00:00

I really do feel like gay men are under attack. I guess we're the next to go, now that lesbians are pretty much erased.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-12-05T18:52:00+00:00

That made my brain hurt.

On another note, today my ~~husband~~ wife showed me ~~his~~ her choice for new drapes in one of our bedrooms. I told ~~him~~ her it looked a little feminine. But then I became really excited because now that he she is clearly female (I have already declared my transgender status) we can now transition as a couple from heterosexual to lesbian.

Who says two gay men can't be lesbians?

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-10-30T00:16:03+00:00

Weird how I don't get that same butterfly feeling for a member of the same sex, like I do for members of the opposite sex. How strange for a lesbian like myself!

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-07-01T19:26:50+00:00

It pains me to admit that the slippery slope arguments were right. I love that I am married to the man I love, but all this other shit is just pushing us towards social catastrophe.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-11-29T17:54:01+00:00

This person is mentally ill. It's clear early on in the essay.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-07-20T20:29:24+00:00

Is it me? Or is this guy arguing that "because sex work is legal and you support its legality, you are now obligated to have sex with me and pay me for it".

IridescentAnaconda · 2022-06-21T19:03:01+00:00

They think 2030 is going to be a LGTBA+bullshit paradise, in reality, once the pendulum swings back against them, they are going to face so, so, so much more hate than when they started and no one will give a shit because they went so too far.

This is one of the things that concerns me. I was happy when I gained the right to legally marry my spouse. That's all I needed, and the two of us have faded into the woodwork to be part of our general, family-oriented community. All of this degeneracy, from raping lesbians to mutilating children to forcing kids to view kink, is ultimately going to imperil my simple right to be left alone.

IridescentAnaconda · 2022-02-25T14:45:51+00:00

If I were a lesbian and she were trans, no I would not love her.

If I were a straight man and she were trans, no I would not love her.

Turns out I am a gay man, and if he were trans, no I would not love him.

Thanks for asking, next question?

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-12-16T00:29:35+00:00

Our society is doomed.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-12-21T19:36:24+00:00

This 1000 times.

As I was talking about this issue with a friend, I asked her what it was like to feel like a woman ("I don't know"). More importantly, I asked her if the jiggling of her boobs turned her on. Her answer: "no, it's irritating because they're too big."

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-11-12T00:22:21+00:00

Does a marriage license count as certified documentation?

IridescentAnaconda · 2022-03-15T03:18:29+00:00

So the lesson is: don't be a trans ally. It will never be enough and you are only enabling the behaviors.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-11-05T00:55:39+00:00

I can't wait for the asteroid to hit.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-03-10T03:23:41+00:00

I can't help but notice that r/lesbians is the only woman-born-woman sub allowed on reddit, the only place where girl-dicks are prohibited. And it's a porn sub.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-08-30T20:34:25+00:00

I can't even get behind the HSTS thing anymore. That phenomenon seems more and more about GNC gay men who can't accept themselves.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-07-01T19:21:26+00:00

My husband and I, our 10 years together through multiple houses in multiple states, enduring the ups and downs of life like deaths of close family members, new puppies, new jobs, and jobs that didn't work out as planned -- soooooo kinky.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-04-04T04:10:53+00:00

“There are features that you may not find attractive, and a trans person may have those features,” Hamil explains. “But this is different than saying you do not find transgender people attractive. We have to remember that all transgender people, like all cisgender people, are different.”

You know what features I don't find attractive? Vaginas and phalloplasties made from arm skin.

“If you’re genuinely not interested in a certain set of binary genitalia, that’s okay; you shouldn’t have sex with someone that you don’t want to,” Hamil assures. “But if you’re really into someone, are genitals going to be a dealbreaker for you? Or will you try to have a conversation, consider what it is about those genitals that you don’t like, ask how that person likes their genitals played with (if at all), and then see where you stand?”

This person has never had sex.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-03-11T23:50:00+00:00

r/superstraight and r/LGBS were banned because they demonstrated solidarity between LGB and straights, against the cancer that TRAs rerpresent.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-07-26T18:29:51+00:00

/thathappened

Seriously, as someone whose entire career involves medical research, I can tell you this could never happen without PI's authorization. If it did, the project has bigger problems than a loose cannon TIM.

IridescentAnaconda · 2022-02-11T04:08:40+00:00

Seriously: no clue how men socialize. But, really, I'm an honest and true, authentic gay man!

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-07-24T17:08:41+00:00

"genital preferences"

This morning I mentioned this concept to Husband, who (bless his heart) remains naive about these matters even after my attempts to educate. But, but, that's just like the 1980s rhetoric about "sexual preferences"! Uh-huh, yes dear.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-03-28T15:11:13+00:00

... clocking cock time ...

-- is what every 14-year-old lesbian wants.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-09-25T02:31:38+00:00

Companion sub r/SocialJusticeInAction is in the crosshairs of AHS, especially since its mods' literal answer to AHS complaints was "fuck you".

I don't know why either is still standing, but it's wonderful while it lasts!

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-07-25T19:39:22+00:00

Of all the things that ever happened, that happened the most.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-03-06T14:26:20+00:00

SuperGayMan checking in.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-01-09T16:32:40+00:00

Narcissists don't like other peoples' boundaries.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-12-22T00:04:25+00:00

I cannot tell you how much I view this as a threat. The messaging regularly promoted by "LBGT" media is going to doom us all in the long run.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-12-07T22:29:54+00:00

I'm beginning to see the light. I've been living a lie for 30+ years, thinking that I am a gay man and telling everybody that. I now understand that I am really a woman. So is my ~~husband~~ wife. I am relieved to have finally discovered the truth that I am a lesbian.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-01-31T14:46:11+00:00

I'm going to hell for saying this but I doubt this person could be attractive in any gender or sexual orientation.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-03-16T04:48:48+00:00

... if I'm accused of being trans

lol deep down they are ashamed of who they are.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-12-01T22:30:18+00:00

Can I start a #StartTransShaming campaign or a #SayNoToTransgenderism campaign since it’s now OK to do it for the innocent people you hate so much?

No, because it's becoming illegal in more and more locales.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-10-07T01:10:21+00:00

TIMs have no grounds to speak on the female experience because they know nothing about it.

TIFs have no grounds to speak on the male experience because they know nothing about it.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-08-13T17:03:12+00:00

How many boys who would grow up to be normal gay men are being pressured / incentivized to destroy their lives in this way?

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-12-04T03:34:00+00:00

You're not supposed to say no. Don't you get it yet?

IridescentAnaconda · 2022-02-24T23:54:09+00:00

I get to define what you are, but you don't get to define what I am.

Red flag: run away while you still can!

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-10-16T05:09:05+00:00

In Boston, as in other cities, Pride has fractured into several camps. One is made up of those who are happy to see Pride become a blander, more corporate, mass participation institution within America’s ever-expanding civic calendar. The second major bloc is made up of those who seek radicalism for its own sake, and who are desperate to rekindle what they see as the revolutionary origins of Pride. And so if gay rights is no longer radical, they insist, the LGBT movement must pour its energy and resources into causes that offer the possibility of militant politics—such as radical gender movements, the erasure of biological sex, anti-capitalism, demonization of Israel, extreme forms of “anti-racism,” pacifism, and police abolition. Even gays and lesbians, now seen as the “privileged” elite of the LGBT population, are the subject of suspicion, and even animosity.

As a member of the "privileged" elite, I've known for awhile there's a target on my ass. The alphabet soup people don't want my heteronormative lifestyle, and they kinda don't want me to have it either.

Fuck them, I don't want the freak show that LGBTQ+ (where the "+" probably includes MAPs) has become.

The corporate option may be bland but it least it leaves me alone.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-07-02T11:32:07+00:00

More directly and I really mean this: I'd rather have sex with a normal, cisgendered woman than these weird transmen that are an unholy mix of things that are not supposed to go together. And I'm not very bisexual at all, like Kinsey 5.75.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-06-19T02:26:21+00:00

Was going to say something along the same lines: I don't support you at any distance, from 2 nanometers or 2 light years, here, there, or anywhere. Also I don't see you as desirable as cis men, and usually I don't see you as desirable at all.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-10-27T01:29:25+00:00

<3 <3 I'm in love <3 <3

We're totally wrong for each other, Arielle and I, but I can't help it.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-03-29T00:59:30+00:00

Frankly it's racist to insinuate that non-western cultures couldn't figure out the basics of reproduction.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-10-15T00:48:52+00:00

Even if no red flags go up about skeletal structure or larynx-related issues, I don't really think a straight guy is going to fall for a neovag. I mean, I'm a gay guy and neovags look obviously fake to me.

IridescentAnaconda · 2022-04-24T15:01:54+00:00

Thanks. I'm quite enjoying our little hateful corner.

The walls are a little bare though, I think we need some artwork. Lately I've been into mid-Century. What about you, boys?

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-05-03T20:16:54+00:00

Bwahaha I knew exactly which user you were talking about, went directly to his user profile and there was the post you were talking about.

Yes, he's a loose cannon and he will hurt someone one day. Bonus: he is a fan of rape fantasies. His aunt tries to keep her daughters away from him, and he has posted an image of a young girl standing at a urinal commenting on the size of "her" member.

I don't doubt for a minute that he was creeping on the girl and that the mother's protective instinct kicked in.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-04-10T19:15:03+00:00

So we're supposed to avoid "scrutinizing" trans people? I guess we're all supposed to stay at home so that trans people can wander around outside without fear of being triggered.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-03-25T11:12:27+00:00

These are truly awful people and the rest of us LGB are going to be associated with them in the public's mind.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-11-27T02:38:40+00:00

I have a slightly different perspective on all this.

Nobody is seriously proposing woque-style conversion therapy (at least not yet), notwithstanding an insistence that we "seriously examine our socially determined preferences" or whatever that crap is. On our end, almost all consequences of FtM uwu can be avoided simply by limiting any meaningful social contact with FtMs, which shouldn't be difficult.

Who I am really concerned about is the FtM's themselves. They are signing themselves up for a lifetime of rejection (recall that story about the FtM who ended up crying in the bathroom of an orgy because nobody saw her as a real man), not to mention serious medical problems, all for some stupid fantasy that can easily be worked around by dating some metrosexual straight guy who would be happy to have them.

I really feel bad for these women in spite of their obnoxiousness.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-01-24T14:52:08+00:00

Second, even if it’s true that most men natively have strong desires to have sex with people who have vaginas, it doesn’t follow from this that they can’t ever develop desires, perhaps even strong ones, to have sex with people who have penises (and the same goes for women). Such a preference may have to be one you’d have to work to develop (unlike, say, the desire for sugar, which comes naturally), but that would simply make it the sexual equivalent of scotch: an acquired taste.

Lord god, we're moving in the opposite direction and LGBT is leading the way.

IridescentAnaconda · 2022-05-24T19:15:24+00:00

Not at all a dangerous predator, not at all a ticking time bomb.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-11-05T00:54:12+00:00

I see. But if a 14-year-old girl asks for a double mastectomy because "dysphoria" it's step right up to the boob guillotine and kneel...

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-03-21T22:39:37+00:00

Left behind please.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-01-27T04:45:50+00:00

Not bad. But I'm not playing ball if there's no bat.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-10-28T01:11:29+00:00

Think of this as a golden opportunity to practice boundary setting.

People are too fucking nice these days. Curb your compassion, it's only creating monsters.

IridescentAnaconda · 2022-05-30T01:39:32+00:00

YOUR GENITALIA IS NEVER A DEAL-BREAKER. IT DOESNT WORK LIKE THAT.

It do work like that tho....

IridescentAnaconda · 2022-03-23T21:19:42+00:00

No one is saying you have to have sex with us. But if you don't, you are a genocidal murderer.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-01-24T14:50:27+00:00

maybe they do it because they genuinely find certain distinguishing racial features less attractive than others.

True in my case. For example, I typically find hairy bodies much more sexually appealing than smooth ones. This ends up excluding one very large racial group. Nothing personal - happy to have these people as friends - but they won't do much for me sexually.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-10-18T03:02:37+00:00

I just read the title of this post to my husband, his response was "oh god please no don't fuck with a classic..."

IridescentAnaconda · 2022-07-26T02:31:02+00:00

The correct answer is: you are not allowed to say no.

IridescentAnaconda · 2022-05-30T01:37:48+00:00

Never was a HP fan but god I love her more and more every day.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-07-17T19:08:08+00:00

Maybe it's because I'm old, maybe it's because I have my own battle scars. But I draw a very harsh and unwavering line with things like this. Love is a two-way street, it is a reciprocal activity, it is always conditional, conditional on both parties bringing something to the table (I'm talking about two adults, not parent-child love). Love is not, nor should be, unconditional.

If you partner changes the rules so drastically that there is no room for you or your own story, then it's time to leave. Period. There is no negotiation on this point.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-07-02T19:37:19+00:00

I'm kind of curious what people here did (other than spending time on s/LGBDropTheT and TERFing out).

Other than settling into a new job I was hired into right before the pandemic started, I got really serious about meditation. My husband really perfected his cooking and gardening skills.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-03-21T15:29:58+00:00

lol vulvas are transphobic.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-10-25T13:51:09+00:00

Privately I'm starting to identify as "androphile" or old-school-cool "homosexual". Publicly I just say I'm married to a man or I just casually slip in references to "my husband". People don't need to know anything about my sex life, they just need to know that I've committed to spending my life with a specific named individual who is clearly, biologically and socially, a man.

I don't want to be part of this ever-changing rainbow BS.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-10-18T14:47:44+00:00

Hey there little boy, you're not much into sports and kinda into dolls, yeah?

Let's put you on some meds to block puberty and then when you're 16 we'll chop off your dick.

Sound good?

IridescentAnaconda · 2022-03-31T21:40:36+00:00

Can you get reported by saying "Friend of Joanne"?

IridescentAnaconda · 2022-02-18T04:47:40+00:00

That's right, and if this becomes accepted we are toast.

Oh, and I need to insert my obligatory "I am vomit" comment.

IridescentAnaconda · 2022-02-13T15:08:05+00:00

... so naturally I was deemed competent to make life-altering medical decisions.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-10-31T05:14:17+00:00

Woman is more then genitals or physical appearance. Woman is something deeper.

The irony!

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-08-04T20:18:42+00:00

That's because they are also evil transphobes.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-03-28T03:37:18+00:00

RIP AGB, now that AHS has it in its crosshairs. ... prepare for incoming CP.

IridescentAnaconda · 2022-03-12T15:42:33+00:00

*cute.

Press "X" to doubt.

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-11-08T00:08:37+00:00

Isn't this person the comedian who ~~confessed~~ joked about jerking off to all the pics their female FB friends posted?

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-10-24T14:40:23+00:00

Something something Marsha Marsha Marsha

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-06-30T22:36:52+00:00

Lemme translate:

I can't define what a "woman" or a "man" is without indirectly referring to stereotypes or arbitrary aspects of our specific culture. But it's totes real, more real than biological sex.

IridescentAnaconda · 2020-10-25T21:42:13+00:00

r/TIA mods are supportive of GC positions. The real question is how long before they end up on the flat end of the Admin banhammer.

IridescentAnaconda · 2022-07-12T18:02:19+00:00

And you had better find me sexy or else I'll find a way to get you fired!

IridescentAnaconda · 2021-11-07T03:55:18+00:00

I don't socialize with other gay people (aside from my husband) so I don't experience the isolation you speak of. Fawning over trans exists for me only on social media. If the topic of trans comes up in real life, it is usually with some level of disdain ranging from "whatever, I don't understand it but you do you", through "I'm very sad for people with such mental illness", to "transwomen are shadow monsters from the pits of hell".

Tbf, in my personal life that last opinion is only openly expressed by myself and my husband.

IridescentAnaconda