"I came out as a lesbian, he came out as a trans woman, and now we’re hella queer together"

Poppy29252 · 2022-01-12T21:21:38+00:00

I was reading some of the replies and found this:

I've never perceived myself as male; others just didn't value my perception of myself until I was old enough to force them to.

"Force them to." What the fuck.

Poppy29252 · 2022-01-06T21:23:24+00:00

I'm so glad I'm "just" a lesbian.

Poppy29252 · 2021-12-25T17:45:26+00:00

I'll take it, makes me sound a lot cooler and rebellious than I really am.

Poppy29252 · 2021-12-06T04:10:42+00:00

Morbid curiosity sent me down a rabbit hole on that sub.... weirdest thing to me is honestly how much they say dude, bro, or man compared to other unrelated subs.

It's like there's an evil choir chanting in the background "Validate! Validate! Validate! Validate! Validate!"

Poppy29252 · 2021-11-23T13:26:44+00:00

I think the concept of identifying into a group to make yourself seem less mainstream/majority or to make others perceive you as "less boring" is definitely a thing.

I've watched this slowly over the years with one of friends who I've distanced myself from because of her bullshit antics. She's a straight, middle class, white girl. She's just average and that's ok. But years ago she started doing drag (performing as a drag king), goes to pride in rainbow outfits, has rainbow tattoos, talks about being "technically bi," and even came out as a lesbian for a month until conceding that she was just a confused demisexual bisexual. Used to call herself greysexual. She spends a lot of time online.

Never dated a woman. Never touched a woman. Never talks about women. Never shows desire for women. Talks about dick. Talks about men. Asked random men on Facebook to be her baby daddy. Only dates men. Mostly she just posts bisexual related memes on Facebook and collects LGBT friends to seemingly give her clout.

Poppy29252 · 2021-11-23T13:16:55+00:00

The only person who can dictate your identity is yourself.

And yet they all act like Tinkerbell, fading away from existence if we don't enthusiastically validate them.

Poppy29252 · 2021-11-03T14:37:18+00:00

Some dude's advice to two sexually inexperienced women is that they should do anal because he loves getting his ass eaten.

Truly amazing.

Poppy29252 · 2021-09-22T14:44:57+00:00

I see that accusation online but that's about it. I assume it's because people buy into the idea that women are only as valuable as how attractive they are to men. So of course a man pretending to be a woman will bring up how fuckable or desirable he is compared to "real" women he deems undesirable.

Of all the things in the world I am jealous or envious of, a man in a dress isn't one of them.

Poppy29252 · 2021-09-22T14:40:18+00:00

Words are made up by humans too so maybe we should stop talking altogether.

Poppy29252 · 2021-09-15T12:57:31+00:00

Genitals are just really weird when you think about them, which is why I try not to

Like vaginas are a little gross all the time if you think about it

I think I'm the weirdo on this one but I'm not a huge fan of genitals either way

I refuse to believe any of these people are over 18 or have had a healthy sexual relationship.

Poppy29252 · 2021-09-05T17:08:23+00:00

Trust me... you are somebody reason to masturbate.

One woman's chills of discomfort is another man's pleasure.

Poppy29252 · 2021-08-23T20:30:25+00:00

I wonder why he "definitely" doesn't want his own locker room.

When I was in middle and high school I was so insecure and embarrassed about my body I would have loved to change in my own private space.

Poppy29252 · 2021-07-19T17:02:04+00:00

There's a company that uses the ashes of deceased loved ones to make diamonds set into jewelry.

Does that mean everyone is just a diamond?

Poppy29252 · 2021-07-02T13:59:32+00:00

Genderfluid couch, also known as a topography map.

I love the tweet that says these couches make them feel seen and loved. It's a fucking couch.

Poppy29252 · 2021-06-29T22:17:38+00:00

A man in a dress isn't a bee.

Poppy29252 · 2021-06-27T02:47:30+00:00

Haven't seen it yet but since I'm Italian I'm obligated to at some point.

Poppy29252 · 2021-06-25T19:56:58+00:00

So you created this to trick them and deligitimize ourselves in the process? Fucking lame.

Poppy29252 · 2021-06-16T14:17:43+00:00

Nebularomantic relationships should be between one astronomer and one universe.

Poppy29252 · 2021-06-14T19:57:06+00:00

Always with the Karen thing, as if people who aren't white don't know what women are.

Poppy29252 · 2021-06-03T02:08:45+00:00

Yeah it's the month for my "bi" "friend" to post about how bi people in hetero seeming relationships are valid.

Please, tell me more about the one time you kissed a girl while drunk.

Poppy29252 · 2021-06-03T02:06:59+00:00

Questioning should still work. "I question if this is red or green..."

Poppy29252 · 2021-05-27T18:09:11+00:00

Kehlani came out as a lesbian last month

Even I didn't realize this and I follow her on ig. I've been noticing all the gay posts she's been doing but figured it was just her being her usual self.

Kehlani I love you. 🥺

Poppy29252 · 2021-05-10T19:57:35+00:00

Albuquerque. We're a liberal town, but we're not much of a "queer" liberal town.

Poppy29252 · 2021-05-07T22:17:43+00:00

Yup - gay is a funky costume for her.

She's currently interested in performing as a drag queen instead of king. Her friends are all hyping her up because "the point of being LGBTQ+ is the freedom to be who you want."

Want.

Not who you innately are.

Want.

Poppy29252 · 2021-05-07T17:51:01+00:00

It's all just stereotypes, of course. Maybe they like theater, Lady Gaga, and going to pride together.

I have a "not like other girls" "queer" friend who is just a straight woman who says she's bi on Facebook, goes to pride, and did drag twice. She only dates and desires men, has rainbow tattoos, blue mohawk, etc. If someone saw the two of us they'd say she was the lesbian and not me.

Poppy29252 · 2021-05-06T19:46:41+00:00

The same way all men do because they are men.

Poppy29252 · 2021-05-02T16:59:52+00:00

I'm mtf and I remember how thrilled I was to be cat called ... I told a beautiful lady friend of mine about it ... And she lunched into what they had said to her ... I was like oh shit they were just as gross to her as they were to me?? YES!

He could at least pretend to be disgusted the way women are when being sexually harassed.

Poppy29252 · 2021-05-01T16:12:51+00:00

I don't think any slur can ever truly be reclaimed. For an individual it could, sure, maybe that person loves that word or is comfortable using it.

But if another person can still use that slur to degrade or dehumanize people, it's always going to be just that - a slur, not an identity.

Poppy29252 · 2021-05-01T13:36:53+00:00

This idea is a thing already and they say then that bisexuality is transphobic because it invalidates trans people by not including them.

The flip side of the coin also happens, where pansexuality is considered transphobic because it suggests trans people are "not really the gender they identify as," meaning bisexual should be good enough of a descriptor.

They are never happy. Never.

Poppy29252 · 2021-04-15T22:13:30+00:00

When they believe they've achieved the highest level of woke, they can say whatever they want and believe it the most enlightened words ever spoken.

Not dating a trans person is like not dating a black person.
The sex binary is white colonialism.
TERFs are white feminism.

Poppy29252 · 2021-04-12T17:27:00+00:00

I wonder if feminine penises get pink bubblegum cigars when they're born instead of blue.

Poppy29252 · 2021-04-08T19:58:33+00:00

Everything is a fetish to them.

I'm eating pineapple right now. MUST BE A FETISH.

You drive a car....every day? FETISH.

You desire sex with people you're attracted to and not with people you're not attracted to? FETISHIZING FREAK.

Poppy29252 · 2021-03-16T13:24:31+00:00

Is it perhaps that people see a removal of their genitalia as throwing away sexuality

Anyone who believes that is vanilla as fuck

Fucking prude cishet colonists, using their sex organs to have sex.

Poppy29252 · 2021-03-16T13:17:02+00:00

Ugh, gross...

How can anyone look at those images and think "Yup, that's lesbian sex!"

Poppy29252 · 2021-03-15T17:33:03+00:00

although I masturbated more like a girl rubbing her clit than like a guy jerking off

Haha whaaaatttt??? The images my mind created are just too hilarious.

Poppy29252 · 2021-03-12T23:16:33+00:00

They know they can't physically force people (as they loOoOove to say, "no one is putting a gun to your head"), but they CAN force people to verbally comply with their desires.

Making people include them hypothetically is enough because it's still a successful manipulation to get what they want.

Poppy29252 · 2021-03-11T18:59:30+00:00

Thankfully not single either, I ended up with a TERF girlfriend without looking for one on purpose so we're just living our evil bigot TERF lives together.

Also laughing at them saying we're just single and lonely and jealous.

Poppy29252 · 2021-03-11T14:41:33+00:00

Superstraight is a sexuality built on exclusion

But like.......isn't that ultimately how all sexualities work.

Poppy29252 · 2021-03-10T21:26:14+00:00

After a while all I could think of was "Why am I talking to these children, and why on earth are they allowed to set the tone of these discussions?"

Yes. I have always felt and wondered the same thing and it drives me fucking insane to think some angsty pre teen is the one calling me a transphobic nazi TERF.

I interacted a bit on the super straight subreddit while it was up and a TRA said relationships should be based on romantic attraction, not sexual. After I asked why they said I should be put in horny jail.

It just pains me too much to believe that could be an adult.

Poppy29252 · 2021-03-10T03:28:13+00:00

I saw a lot of that too, and it was reassuring that we aren't the fringe radicals TRAs make us out to be.

But I also saw a lot of bandwagoners that wanted to hate trans people just for the fact they exist and don't really care what is happening to the LGB community and women, they just wanted an excuse to shit on a group openly.

Poppy29252 · 2021-03-10T03:21:20+00:00

I hope it leads to more than just straight people making a joke of the LGB community like how I saw in some of the posts.

Poppy29252 · 2021-03-07T16:39:48+00:00

The negative comments are telling and I hope "normal" people are having their eyes opened to what's happening in the community lately.

A conversation I just had:

Me: "That is a very long winded way of saying lesbians who don't view men as women are detriments to society."

TRA who describes herself as a cis lesbian: "I wouldn’t call them complete detriments entirely, I still believe they can do some things and still deserve some things, but I most certainly looking down upon them. I find them disgraceful and somebody I cannot respect."

Mind boggling.

Poppy29252 · 2021-03-05T18:59:41+00:00

I can't believe a violent offender is being allowed to speak for ANYthing, regardless if it's a speech on prisoner treatment or not. Murder can in rare occasions be "excused" (self defense, temp. insanity, accident), rape can never be.

He attempted to rape a woman so he could go back to jail and have his surgery covered by the government. If that isn't a euphemism for what trans "women" are doing to women in society today, dunno what is.

Poppy29252 · 2021-03-03T14:38:36+00:00

Are there inherent issues? No.

When they're used to convince people to bend their sexuality for another's pleasure or that "______ is exactly like a woman/man's _______!” then it becomes part of a homophobic, manipulative, sexually abusive mindset.

A penis isn't female. A penis isn't a clitoris. A vagina isn't male. An anus on the sex you are not attracted to isn't something you have to settle for.

Poppy29252 · 2021-03-02T14:50:02+00:00

Hard no. I wouldn't date a woman who thought she was a man, or one who called herself queer, nonbinary, gender fluid, gender queer, or whatever else they're making up these days.

Those are all part of a personality I'm not into.

I'm into butch women but not when they think their button downs make them a man.

Poppy29252 · 2021-03-02T13:34:00+00:00

In the same vein, I always wonder about if "woman" and "man" are defined as "someone who identifies as a woman/man," how do trans people know what physical characteristics to mimic?

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-26T23:07:42+00:00

Boobs just hit different for those who had to earn them.

These people fucking disgust me.

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-25T18:58:22+00:00

Yeah I'm not into government sanctioned murder for people who only said things.

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-25T14:42:32+00:00

It's amazing to me that they don't see how homophobic they are by requiring homosexuals to be attracted to the opposite sex as the only "valid" way to be gay/lesbian.

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-25T05:18:55+00:00

Hahahaha....ugh...🙁

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-25T04:52:38+00:00

I dunno, I don't typically think much. It would have to be a set of specific appearance choices until I start thinking anything in particular. Adults with dyed hair, tattoos, and/or piercings are so, so common where I live.

It would have to be like, blue hair + pixie cut + kiddie back pack + skinny jeans with combat boots. Once she starts looking like she dresses as if she's still a junior in high school, that's when I question things.

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-20T19:36:13+00:00

They always seem to think that non-white culture consists only of being poor and uneducated.

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-18T23:17:51+00:00

Albuquerque!

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-18T23:17:34+00:00

Albuquerque!

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-18T05:09:16+00:00

see where that gets them

Where will it get me, please I'm begging you to tell me. Are you gonna type at me in all caps? Call me a TERF? Say I'm gatekeeping or invalidating "lesbians" who enjoy sucking dick?

Like I need a 14 year old rebel to tell me what a lesbian is.

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-18T00:25:41+00:00

A beings sex is a descriptor of their reproductive state, sure, but that doesn't reflect how they physically use their reproductive organs. I think you're missing that point in your question here. Two male or female sex beings are still male or female regardless of their sexual activity.

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-17T23:11:05+00:00

"Sex" is not defined as "opposite" and that's where your argument fails from the very start.

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-17T14:50:35+00:00

I don't have a real answer but maybe they all ended up in my city.

There are a lot of lesbians here and a lot of bi women here. I dunno what it is. You can go weeks without seeing a gay male couple but see several female couples in one day alone.

That I know of, there are six of us in my and two connected departments at my work.

editing to add that none of these women are ever the blue haired queer kids you see online, I rarely see those kids at all here

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-15T18:22:17+00:00

Most TERFs are actually straight, white women.

Keep telling yourself that as if it gives your argument more clout.

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-15T01:27:18+00:00

The most evil state of being to these people is cis/het/white, they believe the white man colonized the world with ~the binary~, so naturally anyone who disagrees with them is a white supremacist. Plus the woke white people who say this have to get their woke points somewhere when there isn't a BLM march for them to co-opt with trans posters.

It would shatter their egos if they came to terms with the fact non-white people actually DID and still DO know what male and female are without white people having to educate them, disregarding how the majority of trans are middle class straight white men. 🤭

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-15T01:17:53+00:00

Yes, I guess I meant people love the idea of lesbians and gay men choosing hetero relationships, fascillitated by bi people who call themselves lesbian or gay and the trans movement that hands out the queer badge to everyone.

I think I put the quotes on the wrong word in my post, haha.

My friend who I mention on here regularly is that girl. She says she is "technically bi" and uses Facebook to air out her supposed attraction to women but only talks about men, only dates men, got married to a man, had a child with a man, etc.

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-14T18:50:41+00:00

I wish it didn't piss me off or disgust me to see how much people love when lesbians and gay men "choose" hetero relationships but here I am, pissed and disgusted.

How kids today have taught themselves new wave homophobia and call it woke is fucking insanity to me. Bonkers.

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-12T13:58:39+00:00

Isn't that what we see them say?

"Only ______ are real _______ because they had to work for it."

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-09T20:52:31+00:00

I would say you're an asshole but I mean, if you were my friend and said the same thing you just posted, I would laugh with you.

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-09T16:23:32+00:00

Yes, making friends. I don't know how I will ever make friends who aren't straight. Like people mentioned in the reddit thread, it's easier to find similarities and friendship with straight people than those in the community anymore.

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-09T16:19:45+00:00

I haven't gotten that one before but I hear about it a lot. If I did though....bro I am a GIFT that no man could dream of being good enough for.

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-09T14:16:39+00:00

I’ve literally never seen any of this terf vs queer drama IRL. It’s entirely online...

Someone said this and I always wonder where people are able to totally avoid the queer bullshit in real life. I'm not a very social person, I'm not in any way active in the LGBT community, yet I and my girlfriend have been exposed to the "fuck TERFs" and "cis lesbians are shit" and "hearts not parts" rhetoric from people we know. We drive down town and what was supposed to be murals for the black community has way too many trans ones to ignore. We don't go to anything LGB related because we learned quickly it's overrun by trans and every combination of straight queer you can imagine.

It's of course not an every day occurrence but it's there.

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-05T19:04:10+00:00

I'm not Tinkerbell, I'm still a lesbian even if you don't believe in me.

Men 🤷‍♀️

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-05T06:31:02+00:00

What??? Isn't the "I'm a woman now." the problem?

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-03T23:13:50+00:00

If they can say they won't allow biological males into womens' sports, how do they define "biological male?" How would that definition both include biology and exclude trans women?

Poppy29252 · 2021-02-02T20:57:52+00:00

Valid, gatekeeping, inclusive, intersectional, queer. It's rare to see them used in any sort of meaningful way anymore.

Queer is on its own special platform I think. I'm SO FUCKING TIRED of it being used as a personality trait for straight people who feel like they're boring and passé and can't be bothered to pick up an unusual hobby instead. I'm so tired of seeing straight people say it to describe the gay community like it never meant anything else. Like it was never said while beating a gay man to death. But whatever.

Poppy29252 · 2021-01-31T15:29:13+00:00

his heads gonna explode when he learns about xenogenders and neopronouns 😭

(i say this as a catgender person)

"Some days I lick my asshole for 10 minutes, other days I crouch on the living room rug and hork a few times till I vomit a hairball. Both actions really validate me as catgender."

Poppy29252 · 2021-01-22T18:59:57+00:00

"Unfortunately" I'm not a single issue voter.

Poppy29252 · 2021-01-13T18:58:01+00:00

I feel like those women aren't lesbians.

Poppy29252 · 2021-01-05T20:29:33+00:00

They have to put a descriptor in front of "woman, " otherwise they would be conscious of their misogyny.

Poppy29252 · 2021-01-04T20:41:22+00:00

Well they're both men so don't feel too bad.

Poppy29252 · 2020-12-31T13:02:53+00:00

Everything is valid, because god forbid anyone make an explicit definition for anything out of the fear of INVALIDATING and GATEKEEPING, the woke boogeymen. 👻😱

Poppy29252 · 2020-12-30T15:00:35+00:00

Makes me think of a friend of a friend who's a trans man. She came out randomly one day, asked to be called Felix. A couple weeks later she was at our mutual friend's house warming party and some guy bumped into her and she was like "You hit me in my dick, bro."

She's living her best straight girl life as a gay man now.

Poppy29252 · 2020-12-30T05:04:23+00:00

Bend the knee/bend the knee

Poppy29252 · 2020-12-29T13:58:42+00:00

I was in one for a couple years, a few years back. It was a bad experience and I will never even consider an LDR again.

We met up a couple times but ultimately I think she idealized who I was from us knowing each other online for ten years. I don't think she expected that I was a real person with struggles and faults and baggage. She had a superiority complex, was deep into queer theory and was in college for gender studies and getting her doctorate in social work. For all of that supposed empathy for others, she was tired of me having been emotionally and sexually abused in a previous relationship and I think her being fed up with my trauma led to her seeing me as only text on a screen.

After a while she became very cold, withdrawn, cruel towards me, she refused to Skype, didn't want to talk on the phone. She still lived with her ex and they went on trips together but wouldn't even give me her address to send her birthday cards or gifts because it was "disrespectful." Definitely wouldn't let me visit.

I could go on and on and on. I ended it and about 5 months later she emailed me saying I was right that she was cruel towards me and she was sorry. Haha.

Poppy29252 · 2020-12-28T20:54:50+00:00

I always wondered what that meant. What my mind went to every time was dry breast skin that left little flakies in your bra. 🤷‍♀️

Poppy29252 · 2020-12-19T14:30:31+00:00

I don't understand how calling the specific body part "clit" or "pussy" or using the term "cunnilingus" is comfortable but then, seeing the forest for the trees, saying "woman" or "female" makes her spiral out.

Poppy29252 · 2020-12-10T20:24:34+00:00

What a pile of dog shit. For my own sanity I'm choosing to believe this is satire.

Poppy29252 · 2020-12-10T14:04:06+00:00

Those coward lesbians, not sucking dick...

Poppy29252 · 2020-12-10T13:32:49+00:00

Even if it was the same as a vagina, I wouldn't want to sleep with a man because he's still just a man. They can never grasp that point.

I don't care how well a man mimics the appearance of a woman or how genuinely he believes he's a woman. He is a man. I don't want him.

Poppy29252 · 2020-12-08T20:47:10+00:00

She became convinced that trans women are men

Well, they're certainly not women if they have to be trans to begin with.

Poppy29252 · 2020-12-07T20:40:04+00:00

This is where they bring up two-spirit and pretend like they're not being racist with their noble savage tropes.

Poppy29252 · 2020-12-01T12:26:16+00:00

This one disgusted me too.

Poppy29252 · 2020-11-25T19:29:50+00:00

Hello fellow "Kate Winslet's boobs in Titanic" lesbian.

Poppy29252 · 2020-11-17T22:57:45+00:00

I dunno why but this is fucking hilarious.

Poppy29252 · 2020-11-13T09:37:43+00:00

"knowing terfs don't count as wlw"

They say things like this because their "identities" only exist if the world validates them, not realizing that if 7+ billion people said I wasn't a lesbian, I would still be one.

Poppy29252 · 2020-11-12T19:01:24+00:00

Don't other animals identify as their sex assigned at birth due to lack of cognitive ability to identify as anything but their own sex?

If they lack cognitive ability to identify out of their "assigned sex," how could they still identify as their own sex?

I don't feel like I'm a woman anymore than I feel like I have green eyes or black hair. I just exist this way.

Poppy29252 · 2020-11-06T23:15:05+00:00

Everybody hates you. :)

I dunno I'm pretty cool, I don't think everybody hates me.

Poppy29252 · 2020-10-14T18:08:21+00:00

You're invalidating my existence as Wariogender.

Poppy29252 · 2020-10-13T19:40:43+00:00

Identity is created by the brain. Brains are biological constructs. Thus, trans men are "biological men" because their biological brains identify them as men.

If our thoughts altered material reality, there would be no trans people because their brains would have instantly turned them into the sex they wish they were.

Also, Santa would exist. 🤘🎅

Poppy29252 · 2020-10-11T01:11:33+00:00

The tangent explaining fuck 12 is just as funny as the post itself.

Poppy29252 · 2020-10-07T19:50:44+00:00

A lot of TERFs funnily enough happen to be political lesbians

I love this argument. "You're not even really a lesbian!....or whatever......I bet..."

They refuse to accept actual gay people aren't bending the knee to the trans cult.

Poppy29252 · 2020-10-07T04:15:10+00:00

I was under the impression most people think a DD cup is "the" big size, or at least the most desired size. Makes sense then that a guy wanting to be a woman thinks a DD cup is the goal.

DD's are already too big

On another note, as a 32H I would kill to be as "small" as a 32DD.

Poppy29252 · 2020-10-03T14:01:41+00:00

Humans share 35% of our DNA with daffodils yet, oddly, we are not daffodils.

Poppy29252 · 2020-10-02T19:29:04+00:00

"Can women be individuals with personalities or are we just stock characters in a straight-to-VHS movie? Please help."

Poppy29252