Stop viewing bisexuals and sane human beings and start seeing them as deranged preteen gendernutters instead

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-05-01T12:41:17+00:00

Hot take, bisexual should be for attraction to men and women, but pansexual should be used by those open to dating trans. That way trans people easily know who is and isn't interested in them and they actually have a chance of getting laid

Lmao as if that has a snowballs chance in hell

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-04-24T12:25:57+00:00

If you run to Siberia, where do you run form there? The arctic circle? So ridiculous.

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-04-20T20:59:24+00:00

Ah yes, the two sexes, men and non-men.

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-04-08T10:13:55+00:00

Reading this comment I have a sudden desire to go to Taiwan.

In some ways I think gay marriage in certain places was kind of a mistake. It made homosexuals equal on paper so LGB became irrelevant, therefore cutting off all the funding to LGB orgs, so they had to invent TQ opression to stay relevant. I mean it's nice that homosexuals can get married but is marriage even that great? What is the real difference between marriage and a civil partnership? Idk, I live in a country where gay marriage won't ever be legal and I don't see the big deal.

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-04-06T21:41:38+00:00

My biology teacher is named Karen and she doesn't deserve this

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-04-06T19:31:51+00:00

You're all crazy, wtf

I can't read this comments section without losing faith in humanity. Jesus christ. Pronouns aren't a preference!! They're a NECESSITY in making someone feel okay about themselvesssss

So fucking stupid. Maybe you should feel bad. Sometimes it's important to feel unsafe, insecure, scared, anxious. This is how we grow as people. If you spend your entire life feeling nice and safe and coddled in your comfort zone, you won't progress mentally past the age of a 4 year old.

So sick of this echo chamber.

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-04-06T19:15:44+00:00

They are absolutely NotLikeTheOtherBarbieAndKenDolls™

Anyone who isn't a pink loving girly girl or a truck obsessed beer drinking manly man isn't purely feminine or purely masculine, therefore in their eyes they're gender non-conforming so that means they must be under the trans umbrella! These people pull up their handy guides of what is feminine and masculine and make a Venn diagram of their vapid personalities, sorting everything into categories. If things end up majority feminine and they're male then they're transfem, if it's majority masculine and they're female they're transmasc. It's literally that fucking sexist.

99.999% of the time these nonbinary genderqueer folk don't get any kind of surgery because they just want to be seen as special and trendy, they don't have actual gender dysphoria which might drive them to do that or even a fetish. They just put their pronouns in their bio and demand to be catered to.

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-04-06T19:05:34+00:00

Wow this is so disgusting. Why do I feel like this entire comment section smells mildly of sour milk?

It's hilarious to me how divorced they think attraction is from physical biology. Two men fucking is gay in one instance, one of them says they're a woman and it's suddenly straight sex, they both say they're women and that very same fucking has turned into lesbian sex through sheer semantics and voodoo with just a few words. Crazy.

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-04-06T17:22:11+00:00

This is going to sound a little odd but I really hope I meet someone like you irl someday. You sound lovely!

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-04-05T09:38:15+00:00

Is being bald a hairstyle? Is zero a number? If a glass can be a quarter full, half full and completely full, is an empty glass a state of glass fullness? Is black or white a colour? It's a philosophical question it seems like. But zero is useful in mathematics just as absence of sexuality is useful as a tool to contrast with

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-04-05T09:34:06+00:00

Young people are having less sex in general because of environmental toxins.

https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/pollution-penis-shrink-sperm-count-b1821863.html

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-04-05T06:40:05+00:00

Personally I find it immoral to go to such lengths just for a bio kid when so many children are in desperate need of adoption. If you can't love a child because it doesn't share your DNA maybe you shouldn't have children. But that's just my opinion and I'm fine with other people differing

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-04-04T18:12:17+00:00

Because they're not correct for everyone. Replace gay stereotypes with race stereotypes or cultural stereotypes and it's the same problem. Also It's a generalisation and affirmation bias leads people to notice every gay person who fits stereotypes, yet doesn't account for gay people who don't because sexuality is invisible (unless they literally see you fucking the same sex) so a person decides all lesbians act a certain way as they don't bring it up if they don't suspect it based on a visual clue, most of the time. It ends up being that the vocal minority which fits stereotypes represents the whole group. That's a problem because straights who just happen to like those things get branded as gay, and gay people who don't feel like they can't really be gay. Both are bigger deals for adolescents coming to terms with their identity. The only thing which should define being homosexual is same sex attraction, anything else will just cause issues.

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-03-20T21:21:43+00:00

"it also helps that I'm dating another trans guy"

SMH lesbians in denial... Sad AF

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-03-16T22:41:42+00:00

Wow. This is horrifying. I had to click away... These poor poor kids. Reset, please.

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-03-12T18:34:04+00:00

This is fascinating. The thing is, it has to stop somewhere and when the general public finally has enough, they'll begin questioning where else they were wrong since they were wrong about transness. I have a feeling it'll all swing far to the other side, the pendelum has gone too far left. I hate to think of the far reaching consequences

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-03-10T06:42:39+00:00

Out of a college with 4000+ students, you kind of have to make some quick decisions about who you want to approach and connect with. I tend to stay clear of men in general but as a lesbian I do feel safer around GNC men than macho men in my age group, I would never go up to your typical "lad" and try to be friends because there would be no similarities there. So if I want male friends I go for people who aren't intimidating. It's not gender based, and I have always befriended more nerdy boys and been great friends with them throughout my life. With women I think the way they dress and express themselves can be really interesting and cool, so I talk to people with a good fashion sense initially because it makes for an ice breaker about their clothes. Neither of these things used to be a problem and as someone who's pretty shit socially, both of these tactics work in finding people who I can relate to on some level. How am I supposed to psychically know who's interesting out of that many students? Only now, all of a sudden, the people who I used to try to be friends with are usually NB and I just find that exhausting. I feel like at that point they're drank the coolaid and there's no basis for connection.

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-03-07T09:39:08+00:00

This is hilarious but I feel like I can't get too attached... I am way too scarred after r/TL and then r/BiologicalLesbians and this isn't even pretending :(

Amazing while it lasts though. Hope it peaks some people

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-03-03T18:36:32+00:00

I'm 5'2" and this dude towers over me. I've rejected him firmly but I don't want to risk violence or any kind if I resort to that, I don't care about his feelings but he's clearly unstable. I know I should probably be firmer but I think lodging a complaint is safer, even if I did tell him to fuck off that probably won't do anything and he might move on to other victims, too.

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-03-03T11:28:20+00:00

I wonder why we don't give anorexics lipsucution and we don't tell schizophrenics their delusions are real and try to validate them, but we do change trans peoples bodies in dangerous ways due to dysphoria? As someone who has had BDD due to anorexia, it was crippling and awful. But just like no amount of weight loss could make me thin enough no amount of Hormones and surgery can make a trans person male enough, so the dysphoria never goes away while their body is harmed. You could say it lessens, but my BDD lessens at low weights too but that doesn't mean weight loss is a treatment for anorexia

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-03-02T14:47:04+00:00

No because internalised misogyny is unattractive. I also want to be able to talk about being attracted to the female body without hurting my female partners gender fee fees.

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-03-02T12:51:24+00:00

I also cut my hair, first when I was 8 when it was very long (about butt length) up to my collarbone, and then when I was 13 when it had gotten to about ribcage length. I did it in three steps - first up to my chin, and then a proper pixie cut, and then I shaved it to the skin everywhere but at the front. Now it's back at collarbone length, which I'm alright with. I have very quickly growing hair and mine is very thick as well, because of Turkish blood on my mom's side. Mine is also very coarse and wavy, and let's just say that it grows like that everywhere lol. I completely relate to the feeling of freedom when you no longer have all their hair. I was enthralled by how light my head felt, how there was nothing to hide behind, nothing to constantly adjust and play with and run through my fingers. I also loved how quickly it dried lol, before drying my hair took more than a day naturally and about an hour at the hair dryer manually. No more laying down a towel on my pillow

And yes I remember winx club, I was also partial to monster high lol and I collected the dolls. I guess that's the more feminine hobby but really I just undressed them and made them date each other. I was a perverted kid!

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-03-02T12:17:22+00:00

Hard relate to men becoming neutral and women becoming goddesses... In films and TV shows nowadays I can't tell what male would be considered attractive or unattractive anymore and when I guess, my straight friends are always like "ew really??" I don't know! On the flip side I'm always watching female actresses on the screen and thinking wow, gorgeous... One thing I secretly like about the female form being objectified in media is the way that the camera almost always pans on women, lol, and focuses on female nudity, while you might see a hairy chest at most with men. I knew I was definitely a lesbian when I caught myself always subconsciously checking out every girl I passed on the street (in the causal up and down way you look at strangers walking towards you, NOT leering!) but men were invisible to me, unless they were threatening in some way.

I feel like being a lesbian means existing only for yourself. I feel so sorry for women who constantly have to worry about appealing to the male gaze. I love that about being exclusively female attracted

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-03-02T12:05:31+00:00

Yeah, personally I'm really attracted to femme and androgynous looking women - I absolutely adore long hair, but I also like a pixie cut because it really enhances the softness in some women's features. Think Sinead O'Connor lol. Women in their natural state are also beautiful to me, there's nothing wrong with make up, but I'd take a bare face over a bunch of make up any day. I find the highly manicured and very made up, perfect, airbrushed sort of look kind of male gazey? All just my personal preference though

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-03-02T09:30:32+00:00

Great point - it seems like after gay marriage was achieved, the LGBT organisations didn't want to stop the flow of money from supporters. Didn't want to lose jobs, didn't want to lose profit. So it became TGBL instead, with lesbians absolutely last, not even included in certain years Stonewall reports at all. Instead of using the money, power and influence to help LGB youths who still get kicked out, who are still stuck in unaccepting communities, etc, they went all aboard the T wagon. The question is why? In so many countries, homosexuality is still punishable by death. The battle is nowhere near done. But equal on paper, because we can get married now, probably got rid of a lot of the funding since the goals weren't specific enough anymore - helping homeless LGBs isn't as specific of a goal for sponsors as changing a legislation

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-03-01T08:37:24+00:00

Right, I'm talking more so about paper money. Trade has always existed, but paper money is a relatively new phemomen, and even newer is digital money - there is no gold behind either. It used to be that you could go to a bank and exchange your paper money for some actual gold but over time that evolved to the paper money being just as good as the gold and now there's no gold to back it up, it's held together by belief. Money itself is worthless and not made of anything valuable, it's symbolic, and if we all suddenly stopped believing in its value and digital money there would be issues. But, property and resources and land always have tangible value

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-02-28T22:35:34+00:00

I don't know any other group that goes out of their way to this extent to find things to be upset about.

It all goes to show that their entire ideology is built on a house of cards. Human belief is a powerful tool. Take money as an example. Because we all believe that money can be exchanged for goods and services, money has a lot of value. If society as a whole up and decided that money was worthless it would become worthless - things only have the worth they are ascribed en masse. TRAs seem to be taking this to the logical extreme - if we force absolutely EVERYONE out there to see us as our desired sex, then we become the desired sex! They keep seeking "transphobia" out because sects of people who don't believe the illusion are as dangerous as people who don't believe in the value of money in a newly established economy, or who don't believe some medieval ruler is the rightful king. They must be silenced since their entire existence is only an idea, a belief, a thought. They are the opposite sex in the feeble way in which a king has power, through belief, it is like a shadow. It is not based in material reality and falls apart when people no longer believe or have the language to discuss it.

Trans is something everyone has to pretend in order for it to work, which is one of the fundamental ways in which it is different form homosexuality. Homosexuality doesn't have to be believed in and if the language to describe homosexuals didn't exist, homosexuality wouldn't disappear, while the same being true for transgenderism would make it fizzle out completely.

That's another reason they keep inventing new words, new flags, new genders and new sexualities. It's in an effort to make something that's fundamentally nothing seem more than just a shadow on the wall, to give it legitimacy. They see a reddit sub of biological lesbians as a big threat because actually it IS a big threat. Any disbelief suspends the illusion, even one person allowed to speak out against it is blasphemy. Because the disbelief can spread and suddenly you're just a man in a dress who chemically castrated himself again - suddenly the king is wearing no clothes.

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-02-28T22:23:50+00:00

Ugh this makes my stomach turn

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-02-28T11:29:03+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Personally from ages 6-11 I remember having very close girl best friends, who I would become obsessed with and kind of possessive lol. I'd follow them around everywhere, court them by giving them things (one girl I gave a glow in the dark bracelet which I told her to always wear, another girl I wrote a list of "10 things I like about you" with coloured markers as a gift. Illustrated of course) and I'd get unreasonably jealous when other people tried to get close to them. I'd actively discourage and try to stain the name of their guy crushes, lmao. Then the girls wouldn't give me the level of closeness I wanted anymore and I'd get frustrated for some mysterious reason and fall madly in love with another girl. My longest one of these was with a girl called Rosa up until she 13, and around 12-13 I always wanted to hug, share her bed during sleepovers etc. It wasn't sexual yet at all, just a desire for non-sexual closeness, but probably a sign in retrospect?

YES I hate all of the lesbians with exceptions bullshit. I literally don't find any male celebrity attractive, ever, they look like thumbs to me... I just don't get it. Even the more "pretty boy" actors like Leonardo DiCaprio which I repeatedly see so called lesbians obsess over do nothing for me. The most interest I've ever shown in males is when it comes to musicians, but that's about their work, not how they look... I find men so bland to look at artistically. All smooth lines where there should be curves

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-02-28T10:58:54+00:00

Yeah, I can relate to having religious parents (catholic) and I can definitely see how I would have been more in denial if I didn't have some wonderful resources in my life that taught me it was okay. I'm lucky enough to live in a non-religious community so I've never been shut off from other points of view or had the fear of being hated by friends, acquaintances, neighbours, etc, so it was easier for me. I suppose I'm coming from a place of privilege as far as compulsive heterosexuality goes so I really appreciate these replies. Personally I was a very GNC child and had a pixie cut and did martial arts, so I was always called a lesbian even before I realised I am one, so it was easier to come to terms with because it was expected of me? I'm more femme now but it definitely played a part.

I did think I was bisexual but just a Kinsley 5 for ages though, up until recently, because I had been told by progressive friends that "everyone is a bit gay/straight because you haven't met everyone in the world and you don't know if you'll maybe be attracted to 1 man out a million." I've never been attracted to a man or thought I was but I couldn't deny that I guess hypothetically maybe it could someday happen, but at this point I've realised that's actually just a very homophobic argument which is trying to keep lesbians open to hypothetical dick after I joined s/LGBdroptheT and I realised how prevalent that attitude actually is. But I digress.

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-02-28T10:49:52+00:00

Should I ask? I keep seeing this mentioned

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-02-28T10:49:21+00:00

This actually made me tear up a little to read... Maybe I'm just feeling sensitive, but I'm so so happy for you and that you're able to live a life honest to yourself and your desires now. That's wonderful.

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-02-28T10:45:45+00:00

Are you from Poland by any chance? I'm originally from there but emigrated when I was 6 to live in England, which I consider myself very lucky for having done. You don't have to answer if you were ambiguous for privacy reasons though!

That's very interesting and I really appreciate hearing your perspective. I can intensely relate to the strong female friendships, all throughout primary school and highschool for me too, I always got very close and over protective with friends. One at a time. I used to tell people that I would marry my best friend and we'd live together in a cottage. There was one girl when I was maybe 10 or 11 who I completely adored, and when we played pretend I'd always make belief that I was a boy so we could play girlfriends and boyfriends. Silly kids stuff, obviously, but I think in retrospect it was a sign. I always showed zero interest in boys and I didn't understand why some of the girls started getting over the boys-have-cooties phase and developed crushes during puberty. The boys they pointed out just seemed so plain, but I was always going on about how pretty some of the girls were, lol.

Hard relate to the thought of anything physical being repulsive with men. I think some lesbians experience repulsion towards sex with men in the same way that you'd experience repulsion towards a family member, but for other lesbians it's not repulsion but just a lack of attraction. Like, neutrality. Which can be more easily confused with being opposite sex attracted in some way, since you aren't grossed out, just frigid?

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-02-28T10:30:01+00:00

Interesting, the definition I just came across is from a conversation on a lesbian only discord server I'm a part of. Some of the women were talking about comphet claiming they'd convince themselves they were having heterosexual crushes, would mistake fear and anxiety for butterflies around them and at the same time would mistake adoration of females for deep friendships. So, they repressed homosexual desire while lying to themselves that whatever they felt for men was indeed how desire "should" feel. They'd tell people they were really into this boy or that when asked by friends, but for "some reason" would never want to actually flirt with them or date them. It was a crush with zero desire for action past the thought they'd tell themselves of "ah yes I have a crush on that boy."

The part that doesn't make sense for me may just be because I'm the kind of person that is very sure of my feelings? I've never gotten fear confused with desire, and I've never felt the need to try and force myself to be attracted to anyone. It's obvious to me when I see females as more than just friends because it feels so good to be around them, I constantly want to talk to them, constantly have an urge to touch them when in physical proximity to them, fantasise about being with them when zoning out, even dreaming when it's a hardcore crush. Which I think is normal for teenagers filled with Hormones. But I've literally never even felt very interested in a man intellectually, apart from David Bowie, let alone any of those other markers, and while I understand some people may mature later than others these women were talking about having these so called crushes ages 19-25 and by that point as a lesbian I think you'd have had a serious, strong female crush right? It just kind of baffles me. And these are women in the UK, and while I don't deny there is lesbophobia everywhere it's not like they're from an extreme place.

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-02-26T23:12:17+00:00

Tbh, I just avoid speaking to her because I'd rather save myself the bother. Even though nothing bad will happen I just can't be bothered dealing with her, I find people like that so exhausting

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-02-26T21:25:34+00:00

They all actually seemed to agree - thank god. No one tried to pander to any gender bs. It was refreshing and gave me hope!

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-02-26T18:29:47+00:00

I've gone out of my way to not refer to her at all, tbh. But when the time comes where I'm forced to I'll conceed :/

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-02-25T10:42:06+00:00

Congrats, this made me want to die lol

For most of the questions my choice would be "none of these, what the fuck"

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-02-24T00:10:35+00:00

I don't understand why certain people want to be different in such a boring way as by making up a sexuality or a gender, it's being different without actually putting in any work and that's boring. I can't help being lesbian and it makes me about as interesting as what country and year I was born in, its a simple fact of my birth. Get an unusual hobby or something, weird identity labels don't build you as a person

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-02-24T00:08:50+00:00

Thank you, I hope so too <3

QueenOfTheNorth · 2021-02-24T00:07:21+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment, it really made me feel a lot better to hear that you learned to accept all of this with time. It's just so hard because not only do you feel alienated for being a lesbian in and of itself, but also the mere experience of having to struggle with something like this is something unique to lesbian/gay people. Even bisexual can just sort of pretend and only act on their opposite sex attraction so it doesn't really count to the same extent. Having to grapple with such a huge part of most people's identity and make peace with something that straight people just take for granted, well no one gets it and how could they?

You have to carry around this secret in fear and shame because you never know how people are going to react, I feel like I can't even tell female friends without them thinking I'm hitting on them. It's this constant weight on my mind right now, probably because it's so new to me as a realisation and because i don't have any lesbian friends. It sucks that even in the most "progressive" countries there's so much lesbophobia and I'll always have to be wary of who I tell I have a girlfriend if I ever have one, that I'll have to be so careful with something straight people never even think about. I'm jealous honestly and it makes me sad. I hope this makes sense. I know people are discriminated for other things too, but those things are usually immediately apparent, like race and being disabled and being a woman, etc. The fact that you can't really tell who's gay or not makes it so much harder because you never know who will be cool with it and who won't, who's secretly a lesbian hater and who isn't, until you tell them and then you can't take it back...

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